Hi DNL! How do I stop feeling bad about lack of sex and not being able to get it? This has been an issue for me pre- and post-COVID. I’m a thirty-something heterosexual male who’s never identified as traditionally masculine, was a late bloomer in dating and never really found fulfillment in my twenties. I’ve…
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Help, My Boyfriend Became a Right Wing COVID Conspiracy Theorist!
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I have been dating a white man for 5 yrs ( I am a black Woman). He is Republican from a family of Democrats. When George Floyd hit he marched in 3 BLM marches and helped to organize one in his hometown. Then he tried to read the new jim crow and…
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What Do I Tell People Who Think My Relationships Is “Not Normal”?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: Outside observers have commented that my relationship with my boyfriend seems unhealthily weird, however to me it feels like a good (though unusual) fit. I suspect my boyfriend might have schizoid personality disorder – so am I fooling myself that this is even possible? Background: We’ve been dating for over 5 years. My boyfriend…
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How Do I Get My Partner To Slow Down In Bed?
Hi Doc, I appreciate you’re not a medical doctor so can’t comment on potential physical causes for this issue, but I’m not even sure where to start looking for advice on this that doesn’t immediately descend into snake-oil and weird assumptions. I’ve been following your blog since the sex-positive hey-day of the late aughts, so…
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My Fiance Cheated on Me. Now He Wants An Open Relationship.
Hi there Dr NerdLove, I’m in a mess. I was supposed to get married this summer until we postponed for COVID; then two months ago my fiancé confessed to cheating on me. Not like once or twice, but probably twenty times with maybe a dozen different women, from one-night stands to hookups with a friend…
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My Friend Is In An Abusive Relationship. How Can I Help Her?
Doctor’s Note: today’s letter includes discussions and descriptions of emotional and verbal abuse. Hi Doctor! I’m not sure if this is the kind of question to take on, because it’s not about me specifically, but about my brother (30) and his girlfriend (29). They’ve been in a relationship for about five years and to be…
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