Hey Dr Nerdlove,
I have a bit of a situation (who doesn’t). It involves a very good friend of mine and two girls (I’m a dude btw). I’ve expressed a very strong interest for one of the girls to my ‘good friend.’ He said he’ll help me out with the girl (wingmanning I guess) but I told him not to because I want to focus on myself (I go to college/university) for a little while before I go into something like this.
So anyway, after a party that happened on a Wednesday night, my friend was getting cozy with her and it made me a little depressed and betrayed. It was just cuddling or hugging but that, for her, is where the ‘seed of interest’ grows.
The conversation that we had over the phone (the night before the party) he told me she was ‘fair game.’
This really pissed me off because I don’t think of it as a ‘game.’ Why did he say that anyway? I feel that he likes her but he keeps on saying that she’s fucked up over her last boyfriend. It sounds like he’s trying to push me away unconsciously or consciously so that he can get with her.
But this where it gets incredibly fascinating and where the absolute hypocrisy or inconsistency of humanity comes through. The other girl that I mentioned above (let’s call her blondy), she made out with him at a student apartment complex after the party/club. She said that she doesn’t normally kiss other students and he says why don’t we kiss now or some shit like that. This angered me because blondy and I have something between us that I believe can develop, some sort of sexual tension is present as well, but she also flirts with my friend.
And last night I got quite drunk, it was the last day of the semester/term, and my friend was basically helping me to get back to his place so I can rest there. I heard just round the corner the two of the making out and then after they were done he says ‘I’m gonna be thinking about that until Sunday.’
He mentioned to me before this mess that his friend was performing his poetry somewhere and he asked if I wanted to come but I declined and instead he’s taking her.
When I asked him about it whilst he was taking me home, he denied it and then he brushed it off like it meant nothing and kept on saying ‘she doesn’t want to get with any of us’ (meaning any of the guys in our college). They’re clearly going to get together and I feel like I’m nothing.
The thing is SHE KNOWS I like her because my friend let it slip that I liked her. She’s playing a game, I believe, because before I got wasted she proposed that she wants to go have drinks at some bar or pub with both of us. Two guys and one girl – with her knowing everything. I got wasted on college premises with some of the really attractive lecturers. (Irrelevant – they are so hot it’s unbelievable, also my friend had our English lecturer grind on him at the club/party on Wednesday night)
Fuck man, what am I to do? I thought about pursuing blondy but I don’t know, when I see her, I see his face up against hers – kissing.
– Waiting To Start