(Doctor’s Note: This letter involves discussion of sexual assault.)
Every once in a while, I get a letter that requires more than the standard Ask Dr. NerdLove. Sometimes a reader has a situation that requires some in-depth examination to determine just what went wrong, where, how, and what could be done about it. These are what I call Post Mortems, where we cut open the cadaver of the relationship for some exploratory emotional surgery.
These are rarely pretty, often requiring some tough love and application of The Chair Leg of Truth. But on occasion, I’ll get a letter from someone who needs help picking apart a confusing and upsetting situation.
This is one of those. And because of the nature of the letter, I’ll be forgoing a lot of the usual snark and Chair-Leg-Of-Truth. This is someone who’s been through a traumatic experience and it’s time to help explain just what happened and why and – more importantly – how they can move on to heal.
So it’s time to scrub up, remove some emotional shrapnel, close some wounds and – hopefully – put them on the path to recovery.