Dear Dr. NerdLove: I’ve never written one of these, so apologies if it’s awkward or weird. I’ve never had an orgasm. This is not the fault of my partner of 10ish years, he’s wonderful. It’s me; anytime I get close, I panic and shut down. I don’t trust easily, due to a not-great upbringing, and…
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Why Is Our Sex Life Out of Synch?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I recently reconnected with a sexual partner from my past. We’ve always kept in touch over the past 8 years, but are now trying to have a “normal” intimate, next level relationship. The problem is …I enjoy quicker “activities” – let’s say 30-40 minutes, including foreplay. He prefers longer sessions and can…
Help, I Find Sex Disgusting
Dear Dr. NerdLove, I am a straight man in my mid-twenties who had had absolutely zero dating experience until relatively recently. In part thanks to inspiration from your blog, I started working towards self-improvement and tried putting myself out there more, and I finally began to get a few dates. Eventually, I had my first…
Help, My Girlfriend Dumped Me Because The Sex Was Awful.
Hey Dr. NerdLove, I don’t know if you’ve touched on this specific question before and I’m super embarrassed to even ask anyone about it but I’m at the end of my rope and I hope I can at least get pointed in a direction. Sorry if this message gets a little raunchy, I’m going to…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Our First Date Was Amazing, So Why Did She Reject Me?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: Four weeks ago I matched with girl on Tinder, and things went normally. I broke the ice with a few questions, gave her my number so we could text instead (I didn’t call her since we had already been previously texting on tinder) and then made plans for a date. A couple…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Does Sex Ruin My Relationships?
Hi Doc, My question is about forming lasting relationships rather than any initial problems meeting girls. I was seeing this girl recently and initially things went really well – I felt there was a lot of chemistry and compatibility and we got physical very quickly. We had sex a couple of times and it seemed…
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