When we talk about attraction, one of the things that doesn’t get brought up often is that you need to be interesting. The truth is that people don’t want to date someone who’s boring. Being boring is an attraction-killer; even the most gorgeous people in the world lose their appeal when you can’t have a simple conversation with them. On the other hand, the most attractive people are the ones who are interesting. They’re the people that folks want to talk to. They hold people’s attention, not because of their looks or their social value but by virtue of being who they are as individuals. As one of my friends put it: “I married my husband for the entertainment value he brings, and I am never, ever bored.”
It shouldn’t be much of a surprise that interesting people are desirable. After all, one of the keys to becoming someone worth dating is that you have to be someone people want to spend time with. It’s a key part of The Grimes Test: what do you have going for you beyond the bare minimum? What do you do besides… well, exist?
The thing is: like social skills, being interesting isn’t a binary. It’s not a case of “you’re interesting or you’re not”. It doesn’t take that much to be a more fascinating, captivating person. You just have to understand what it takes to be interesting.
Learning these secrets will help you live an amazing life and be the most interesting person in any room.