There was a joke my father would like to tell on occasion “Do you know why divorces are so expensive?” he’d ask? “Because they’re worth it!”
He would know, I guess. He was on his fourth wife by the time he passed away, getting divorced almost like clockwork at seven year intervals. Now, while there were many things about my father that weren’t terribly admirable (he wasn’t so big on ethical non-monogamy, for example, preferring instead to cheat and try to not get caught) but in looking back… well, he was kinda right about that.
Yes, the joke – by its nature – is fairly reductive, but it contains a salient point: there are times when walking away from an untenable situation is the most incredible feeling you can know – whether it’s a person or a situation.
All too often however, the idea of “moving on” is treated as the worst thing ever. Giving up on something (or someone) is made out to be a a tragedy, a weakness and a character flaw… when sometimes it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.