I’m really appreciating what are You doing – your books were quite helpful for me.
I have an issue with post ‘speed dating’ dating and I don’t know what the hell am I doing wrong.
But first things first: I’m male in my late 20s, I’m rather handsome, maybe not really fit, but I’m working on it. My social circles are non-existent – I have limited number of friends and many of them are nerds like me, so meeting new people on parties is impossible. (Most evenings I spend alone – reading, gaming etc)
So, I started to go on speed dates – when I have match, I invite girl for a date – usually some coffee/beer followed by walk in a park. Usually I get positive feedback: “I think you’re cool”, “I had nice evening” etc., but there rarely is a second date. Also, even if conversations are really awesome, things seldom are sexual, or even flirty.
Am I being too nice? Are our topics too serious? (i.e.: life, philosophy).
I’m confused how to build tension and attraction – how do You even propose simple kiss? Do I lack courage? or play things too safe? Or maybe I cannot properly read some signals? Or first date is too early to propose such things?
Wishing There Were Simple Rules for That Stuff