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Episode #144 — Use This Mindset To Overcome Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

June 3, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Over the course of my career, I’ve dealt with a lot of people who haven’t had much dating experience — from people who’ve only had one or two girlfriends in their lives to literal 40 year old virgins.

They all had in one thing common: they had the same fears, beliefs and anxieties regarding dating and women that made them give up.

Here’s how to break through your dating fears, conquer your anxiety and overcome your self-limiting beliefs.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

How we project our anxieties onto other people
How self-limiting beliefs hold us back
Why our brains trick us into giving up
Why we give up control so easily
How to let go of fear

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

Unlearning Helplessness

Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success

These Self-Limiting Beliefs are Holding You Back

Develop An Abundance Mentality

The Value of Failure

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE: Can You Learn To Love Being Single?

February 5, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!

This week: Valentine’s Day is coming, and it’s stressing people out. How can you learn to be happy when you’re single, especially when it seems like the universe is determined to remind you that everyone else is coupled up and you’re not?

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The Secret to Being Successful With Women

How To Get Over Your Fear Of Rejection

How To Survive Valentine’s Day (When You’re Single)

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Episode #129 – 3 Tips For Flirting Like A Master

December 18, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

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One of the biggest reasons why people have a hard time flirting successfully is that they don’t understand how flirting is supposed to work. But when you understand the overall philosophy of flirting, you’re in a much better position to fine tune your flirting style to one that works for you and lets you adapt to whomever you’re trying to flirt with.

These three unusual tips will teach you how to flirt like a master.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

What guys get wrong about how to flirt with someone they like
Why social calibration is THE most important part of flirting
How to read someone so you can flirt with them the RIGHT way
Why understanding how to set the pace makes you more attractive
Why you should think like a cat to flirt more effectively

…and so much more

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Feeling Like Such A Loser?

December 9, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Good evening Doc,

Well this seems like my yearly fuck dating thing I do all the time. It seems that I’m not up to cut to date anyone ever. I’ve been working out for few years lost 70lbs and still feel like crap most of the time. Dating at this moment is a constant reminder of past, present and future failures in trying to even find a women that is even 2% interested in me or anything that I have to say. To me it seems that women are immediately repulsed by me; none have ever said that but it’s the feeling I get.

I workout 4-6 days a week, have a good paying job, friends that I don’t hate, two motorcycles, go to EDM concerts and travel quite a bit, hobbies include trying to learn to draw and DJ.

So at this point it either has to be location or me. I’ve tried OKCupid, I never get any responses I always ask something about a picture they have or a joke or something. Tinder I lasted about 36 hours before I deleted that. Tinder added to the fact that my face must be severely fucked. I’ve reading Models, No More Mr. Nice Guy, Mate, Definitive Book on Body Language. Takeaway from those is once again keep working on yourself and it will happen. Keep and eye open but don’t look too hard. Right….

My two roommates must be vagina whispers, they have so many girls every week coming in and out of the house it’s insane. They don’t leave the fucking house they barely clean, I’m pretty sure if these guys lived on their own, their house would be a disaster. I started going to therapy a year ago to hopefully figure out what to do but at this point. Turns out I have ADHD and depression. My mood is better but that’s about it

I was listening to an art of manliness podcast, they had Duana Welch on she was talking about how to be more attractive to women. I gathered from that talk was that men who don’t want to provide or protect are not much use as a man. But men don’t like women that are unattractive.

I believe people should hold there own and only need minimal help from the other person, so I’m screwed. So since I don’t care to provide and protect for women, some other guy will and I’m useless as a man. If this is 50/50, are we not equals? They were talking about making a list of dating requirements, like loyalty and femininity and whatnot.

Just flashing back to the women in my life growing up were all breadwinners, they ran there own businesses all worked in some caliber. From what I’m reading those women are going against the norm and are also screwed to be alone forever as well.

I’m 31 now, and I wasn’t always this lonely or down about being by myself. But around 25 or 26, even though I was doing all the things I was supposed to in order to enjoy life, I just wasn’t meeting women. And as that started building on itself, it just became the biggest failure in my life, and what I started worrying about constantly.

I’ve talked with my therapist about trying to get in a good feedback loop by just doing just little things but those don’t help still feel useless and worthless. Then that spills over into any type of relationship I would have had with anyone.

At this point I’m more frustrated and angry more than anything. Feels as though I should give up. At 30 not that I’ve lived that long or anything, everyone says once you hit 30 you won’t care and then it will happen.

Any advice ?

Sincerely,

Frustrated Nerdy Black Guy

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Episode #124 – Why Women Don’t Like Nice Guys

October 9, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Why do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to date them?

The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more important. Whenever a woman says “I wish I could find a nice guy”, there’s the unspoken modifier: “I wish i could find a nice guy… who actually excites me.”

Here’s how men can stop being so “nice”, and start being amazing.

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