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Episode #129 – 3 Tips For Flirting Like A Master

December 18, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

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One of the biggest reasons why people have a hard time flirting successfully is that they don’t understand how flirting is supposed to work. But when you understand the overall philosophy of flirting, you’re in a much better position to fine tune your flirting style to one that works for you and lets you adapt to whomever you’re trying to flirt with.

These three unusual tips will teach you how to flirt like a master.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What guys get wrong about how to flirt with someone they like
  • Why social calibration is THE most important part of flirting
  • How to read someone so you can flirt with them the RIGHT way
  • Why understanding how to set the pace makes you more attractive
  • Why you should think like a cat to flirt more effectively

…and so much more

RELATED LINKS:

The Art of Social Calibration

How To Use Humor In Your Flirting

Five Different Ways To Boost Your Charisma

What Is Chemistry Pt. 2: Emotional Engagement

Fix Your Flirting

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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Feeling Like Such A Loser?

December 9, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Good evening Doc,
Well this seems like my yearly fuck dating thing I do all the time. It seems that I’m not up to cut to date anyone ever. I’ve been working out for few years lost 70lbs and still feel like crap most of the time. Dating at this moment is a constant reminder of past, present and future failures in trying to even find a women that is even 2% interested in me or anything that I have to say. To me it seems that women are immediately repulsed by me; none have ever said that but it’s the feeling I get.
I workout 4-6 days a week, have a good paying job, friends that I don’t hate, two motorcycles, go to EDM concerts and travel quite a bit, hobbies include trying to learn to draw and DJ.
So at this point it either has to be location or me. I’ve tried OKCupid, I never get any responses I always ask something about a picture they have or a joke or something. Tinder I lasted about 36 hours before I deleted that. Tinder added to the fact that my face must be severely fucked. I’ve reading Models, No More Mr. Nice Guy, Mate, Definitive Book on Body Language. Takeaway from those is once again keep working on yourself and it will happen. Keep and eye open but don’t look too hard. Right….
My two roommates must be vagina whispers, they have so many girls every week coming in and out of the house it’s insane. They don’t leave the fucking house they barely clean, I’m pretty sure if these guys lived on their own, their house would be a disaster. I started going to therapy a year ago to hopefully figure out what to do but at this point. Turns out I have ADHD and depression. My mood is better but that’s about it
I was listening to an art of manliness podcast, they had Duana Welch on she was talking about how to be more attractive to women. I gathered from that talk was that men  who don’t want to provide or protect are not much use as a man. But men don’t like women that are unattractive.
I believe people should hold there own and only need minimal help from the other person, so I’m screwed. So since I don’t care to provide and protect for women, some other guy will and I’m useless as a man. If this is 50/50, are we not equals? They were talking about making a list of dating requirements, like loyalty and femininity and whatnot.
Just flashing back to the women in my life growing up were all breadwinners, they ran there own businesses all worked in some caliber. From what I’m reading those women are going against the norm and are also screwed to be alone forever as well.
I’m 31 now, and I wasn’t always this lonely or down about being by myself. But around 25 or 26, even though I was doing all the things I was supposed to in order to enjoy life, I just wasn’t meeting women. And as that started building on itself, it just became the biggest failure in my life, and what I started worrying about constantly.

I’ve talked with my therapist about trying to get in a good feedback loop by just doing just little things but those don’t help still feel useless and worthless. Then that spills over into any type of relationship I would have had with anyone.
At this point I’m more frustrated and angry more than anything. Feels as though I should give up. At 30 not that I’ve lived that long or anything, everyone says once you hit 30 you won’t care and then it will happen. 
Any advice ?
Sincerely,
Frustrated Nerdy Black Guy

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Episode #124 – Why Women Don’t Like Nice Guys

October 9, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Why do women say they want to find a nice guy, but never seem to date them?

The answer is that what women are not saying is actually more important. Whenever a woman says “I wish I could find a nice guy”, there’s the unspoken modifier: “I wish i could find a nice guy… who actually excites me.”

Here’s how men can stop being so “nice”, and start being amazing.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What women REALLY mean when they talk about finding a nice guy
  • Why women aren’t attracted to “nice” guys
  • Why being “nice” by itself isn’t enough
  • Why nice guys lose respect… and how to get it back
  • How to develop the qualities women are REALLY looking for in men

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Being a “Nice Guy”?
Why Being A “Nice Guy” Isn’t Good Enough
Eliminating Neediness
What Bad Boys Know (That Nice Guys Don’t)
Enforcing Your Boundaries
Do Women Prefer Dominant Men?
Dominance, Prosocial Orientation and Female Preferences

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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Letting Virginity Define Me?

August 30, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Hey doc,

I’m 23 years old, a guy, and I still haven’t lost my virginity yet, and while I’ve seen some of your stuff on that matter, I still feel like time is “running out” for me, and I’m worried about how others see me, and moreover how I see myself for it.

In summary, I haven’t lost my virginity partially because I’m not a big partier and haven’t sought out hooking up in the past, and also because I turned down two other opportunities.

First, an acquaintance offered to be FWB when I was 20. I had no reservations there, but at the time I was on the verge of a relationship with someone else. That relationship ended fairly quickly, as my ex figured out she was aromantic soon after. I lost touch with the acquaintance for about a year.

About two years later, I had found a girlfriend again. Not long after we started seeing each other, she threw herself at me while she was drunk. I felt that I couldn’t in good conscience have sex with her when she was that drunk, and so I said that we should wait until she was more sober. The next time we talked, she admitted that she may have gotten an STD from a previous partner, and she needed to be tested before we did the deed. She tested negative, but through a cartoonish series of bad luck, things ended before we could.

I usually hear that she wouldn’t be worth my time anyway if she’d reject me for being a virgin, but considering that people like Elliot Roger and Alek Minnassian exist, I have to wonder how much being rejected for being a virgin would be a matter of a woman thinking I was dangerous or a bad person because of it.

The irony I see in this is that I remained a virgin because I felt I needed to do the right thing in those scenarios, and in a weird way, I feel like it has doomed me, even if I know that plenty of people stay virgins beyond my age and lose it then. I guess a big part of it for me is knowing that there are a lot of people who can’t find a willing person, and living in fear that I’ll be mistaken for or worse somehow am one of them.

I guess what I’m asking for here is advice on how to approach it with others, if getting it “out of the way” is a good idea, and if explaining it (in an otherwise contextually appropriate situation with future partners) is a good or bad idea with regard to all of this. Thank you.

-Volcanic Sacrifice

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Episode #118 – Dating Tips for Short Men

July 17, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

When Chris Morgan had a meltdown at the Bagel Boss in Long Island, he was tapping into real frustrations short men have in dating. Here’s how short guys can learn to get the girl.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • How the body shaming of Jason Momoa and the Bagel Boss meltdown are symptoms of the same problem
  • Why your height isn’t the deal breaker you think it is
  • What Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr., Donald Glover and Bruno Mars have in common
  • Why women like tall men
  • How to seem taller than you really are

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

5 Dating Tips for Short Men

How To Get Women To Approach You

Finding True Confidence

Why You Should Fake It Til You Make It

What is The “It” Factor?

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