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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #56 – How To Be The Most Interesting Man In The Room

November 30, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 15 Comments

This week, I want to give you one of the most valuable tips I can possibly give. This is that One Simple Trick, that single thing that you can do that will double your online dating success, make you the center of attention at any gathering and ensure that you will be absolutely magnetic.

It’s very simple.

You want to be interesting.

Interesting people are more charismatic. Interesting people are more memorable. They’re more fun to talk to. And learning to be more interesting is far easier than you might ever realize.

Show Highlights:

What people get wrong about how to be interesting
One simple way of becoming more interesting, immediately
The importance of “Yes”
Why you should find your stories
What interesting people do that boring people don’t

…and so much more.

Related Links:

Develop Your Lifestyle – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/level-up-develop-your-lifestyle/

Become Someone Worth Dating – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/become-someone-worth-dating/

Do You Pass The Grimes Test? – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/pass-grimes-test/

Develop Your Lifestyle – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/level-up-develop-your-lifestyle/

The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man (Isn’t Looks or Money) – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/leveling-up-most-attractive-man/

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #24 – Building Unshakable Confidence

April 13, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 1 Comment

People treat confidence like a binary: either you have it, or you don’t. The problem with this outlook is that it reduces confidence to a catch-22; if you don’t have confidence, then you need to build it, but you can’t do the things that let you build it if you don’t have confidence in the first place.

Therein lies the mistake. People who lack confidence treat confidence as something that you earn or is handed to you. If you don’t have these accomplishments – which could be anything from things you’ve done like talking to women to quirks of fate like your physical features – then you can’t be confident because what do you have to be confident about?

So how do you really build true, unshakable confidence?\

Show Highlights:

Why confidence has to come from within, not from without
The key mistake people make about confidence: it’s not about success
How to control your mind by controlling your body
The secret to building lasting, natural confidence
How inertia leads to fear, and why you need to just commit

… and so much more.

Related Links:

Make The Right First Impression

Learn To Be More Confident

Redefining Failure

Finding True Confidence

Conquer Approach Anxiety

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Find Your Swagger

March 6, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 219 Comments

One of the things that divides the desirable men from the single ones is simple: the desirable men have that swagger. A man who’s connected with his swagger is someone who’s tapped into a level of charisma that other people simply don’t have. Swagger is that mix of confidence and assurance that gives a man the extra oomph, that ineffable quality that makes him almost magically appealing.

Swagger is part of what makes an individual go from attractive to magnetic. We see it in some of the most beloved characters in pop culture from Peter Venkman to Han Solo to Jack Harkness. We see it in celebrities like Will Smith and Serge Gainsbourg.

And you can have it too. So let’s start finding your swagger.

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Minisode #16 – How To Improve Your Charisma Instantly

February 9, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

I want to talk to you about one quick thing that you can do that will boost your personal charisma almost instantly.

And that is: I want you to stop apologizing.

Part of what makes people charismatic is that sense of conviction and authenticity. We all crave certainty – it’s a magnetic quality because uncertainty causes literal discomfort. If we ourselves can’t be certain about something, we take reassurance from people who are. The more conviction and certainty you have, the more people are drawn to you.

But you can’t have that when you abandon your own power through apologizing needlessly. So you need to learn to harness the power of not apologizing for how you feel or what you love.

Show Highlights:

How so many men undercut their own desirability
Why certainty is so appealing
The power of being direct
The difference between asking and trying to convince others

and so much more.

Related Articles:

Self-Acceptance vs. Self-Improvement (and Why You Need Both)

Eliminating Neediness

Build Up Your Emotional Resilience

Take The Hit: Getting Over Your Fear of Rejection

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Level Up: 5 Different Ways To Boost Your Charisma

January 30, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 24 Comments

For the latest installment of the new Level Up series, I want to talk to you about how to be more charismatic. Charisma is an important part of being a more desirable, datable person. Charisma is the difference between someone that people like to spend time with and the people who may be well liked… but aren’t quite as attractive or interesting. But when we talk about charm and charisma, people tend to focus on one example or another above all others. Take this clip of Will Smith on the Graham Norton show as an example.

Despite being on stage with four very charismatic and well-regarded celebrities, Will Smith draws more attention than anyone else. He’s able to crack jokes and riff on people’s stories – even interrupt them – without being seen as being rude. But improving your charisma isn’t just a case of “be more like Will Smith”; after all, if you’re shy or introverted, it’s hard to maintain that level of intense energy or attention. If you want to improve your charisma effectively, you want to do so in a way that meshes with your personality. Being charismatic doesn’t mean that you need to be the center of attention, it just means being able to connect with people.

So, to start leveling up your charisma, let’s look at 5 different ways of making that connection.

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