Hey Doc, How do you know if/when to end a long-term relationship when everything is great except for the sex? How do you know when it’s irrational to keep trying to make it work? I’ve been dating my girlfriend Helen (not her real name) for 5 years, and lived with her for 3. We’re both…
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Why Do Women “Never Feel A Connection” With Me?
Dr. NerdLove, I have a few hang ups around relationships that I’ve tried to work through, but haven’t made any headway on in years. The big, number one thing at my core is that throughout my whole 20’s, I’ve learned more and more that there is nothing innately interesting or appealing about my personality. It’s…
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How Men Can Stop Feeling Unwanted
Being a man, particularly a straight, cisgendered man, can be a perverse paradox at times. Society caters to us in almost every way imaginable. Even in 2021, as we strive towards greater social and sexual equity for people of different genders and sexualities, straight cis men are very much at the top of the social…
Episode #133 — What Do Women Find Sexy In Men?
Do you know what women find sexy in a man? Not attractive, not aesthetically pleasing but what makes a woman want to peel a man’s clothing off with her teeth. A lot of guys… don’t. In fact, a lot of guys have the absolute WRONG ideas about what turns women on. If you want to…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Driving People Away?
Hi Doc, I’m finally asking you for some insight in a little problem of mine, after having delayed this quite a while, because, well, my issue isn’t directly related to dating. Because of this, I don’t know how to start, so my best guess is to simply give you as much info as I can…
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The Fear of Being “Invisible”
When I wrote about the Hollaback Project’s street harassment video, the comments section was deluged with men insisting that they’d love to be harassed like that. I was willing to disregard these complaints – after all, most men who talk about how they’d like to be cat-called change their tune when other men are doing the holla’ing –…