Doctor’s note: Hey folks, this week we’re doing things a little different. Sometimes even the advice-givers need a little advice of their own… so who do they reach out to? Well, in this case… me. Straight from the pages of the excellent comic Fresh Romance, advice columnists of The Divorcée Club have sent questions of their own in for Ask Dr. NerdLove. These questions will also appear in an upcoming issue of Fresh Romance, so be sure to check them out as well! With that having been said… let’s do this thing.
Hey Dr. NerdLove…
So, I’m married to someone who is a great partner in pretty much all ways. We get along well, we take our relationship seriously but not too seriously, and we are truly partners. There’s one thing that we both struggle with, though. I’m a social butterfly who thrives in situations where I can flit from group to group chatting with friends and acquaintances. I love meeting new people. I get loud and chatty. He… does not. He prefers quiet evenings with a handful of people he knows well. In loud social situations with a ton of people, he’s not necessarily uncomfortable, but he’s not having fun. We haven’t found a good compromise to this situation yet. In casual friend outings, we are both a-okay with doing our own thing and going out alone. For work, I have to do my thing, and he would like to join to be supportive, but is there a way to make him comfortable without excluding him from the social stuff? Are we missing a middle ground? Help!