Hi Dr. NerdLove, My partner (he/him) of five years violated the boundaries/understandings of our monogamous relationship by receiving a one-way sex act from a friend of his. While I’ve agreed to stay and try to move past it, I haven’t decided the long term and taken off the engagement ring. I’m having a having a…
emotional health
Is It Wrong For Me To Even TRY To Date When I’m Not Attractive?
Hey, Doctor. I’ve been on your site for quite a while, and found it super useful and relatable, with plenty of great advice. For reference, I’m a 24 year old male with zero relationship experience. Never had sex, never been in a relationship, never kissed anyone, never even held hands. The most I can say…
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I Just Blew Up My Marriage. Can I Still Save It?
Dr NerdLove, I need some help figuring out what to do, and I will be upfront and say I fracked up and I caused this crisis in my life and I know I was wrong, but I still don’t know what to do next. I need you to do the thing where to tell me…
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Am I An Asshole If I Don’t Want to Settle for Someone In My “League”?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, My entire family is dead, and I’ve been living with my only close and reasonably well-off friend and her husband since losing my job and housing in the summer of 2020. I have severe anxiety and a number of physical health issues that all together mean I am not capable of working…
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How Do I Become More Attractive to Women?
Hi Doc, For the last month and a half or so, I went on some dates with a girl (who we’ll call L, for the purposes of this letter) who I met through Bumble. I really liked her, as we have similar tastes in music (which is uncommon among people my age), and it was…
I Don’t Know How To Help My Husband With His Mental Illness
Hi DNL, I am writing to you about my husband, who is dealing with some serious mental health challenges. I don’t really feel like I have anyone else to talk to about this, because everyone I know is going through equally stressful problems. Some background, my husband and I have been married for 3 years….
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