You could very well say that I (21m straight) am in a bit of a friendship problem type situation. I find myself to be incredibly physically (but not romantically) attracted to my best friend of 14 years (21f straight) and it’s making me incredibly uncomfortable. She and I became best friends in year 2 after sitting down next to each other and stabbing each other with pencils (don’t ask me why we became friends after that moment because I don’t know). We were both bullied in primary school for being quirky and different and we both stood up to each other when we were being bullied. To this day even though we’ve gone to different schools we still remain loyal best friends, and she is the only friend I’ve kept since childhood.
Recently however, I’ve begun to become very physically attracted to her and I don’t know how to deal with this without ruining a friendship. I am not romantically attracted to her, our personalities are way too different for us to date and I don’t see her in a romantic sense. Her personality is that of an overly enthusiastic golden retriever puppy with no boundaries whereas I am extremely quiet and introverted like a cat (I have Aspergers, she doesn’t). I am not worried about being “friendzoned” but I’ve been having a lot of vivid dreams about me and her “getting it on” and I’m not sure how to deal with these feelings without potentially ruining a friendship. I really value her as a friend and I don’t want to ruin a friendship just because I admittedly have dirty and shameful feelings about her. Do you have any tips for me?
The Ashamed Friend