One of the hardest parts of dealing with a break-up isn’t the pain of a relationship ending or the complicated hostage exchange involved in getting your graphic novels back while your ex demands her blu-rays even though she knows damn good and well that you bought the Game of Thrones collections for you and she wasn’t even a fan before you were dating, nor even the annoying feeling that somehow you’ve become that guy from the Gotye song that was all over the radio a couple years ago.
No, it’s that your ex is refusing to honor the contract that says that she’s supposed disappear forever, or at least enter a monastic existence far from civilization and never ever date again in the event that your next relationship doesn’t work out.
Instead, they’re stubbornly sticking around – even starting to date people who aren’t you. Which means that there are going to be all those awkward “accidental” encounters at the places you used to frequent together, the painful “oh shit, who is she talking to?” moments at parties and other occasions when your ex seemingly conspires with the universe to remind you of her existence.
Also: she never did return your Transmetropolitan graphic novels.
But just because the two of you broke up doesn’t automatically mean that everything is going to be awkward and painful between the two of you forever. In fact, it’s possible that your ex could be an incredible friend.
Provided you know how to deal with her after the relationship ends.