My partner (25M) and I (26F) have been together for four years and are very much in love. We are both nerdy and fairly nontraditional and have explored kink, nonmonogamy, etc. Occasionally, not very often, we’ve watched porn together.
So here’s why I am writing. A few months ago, after a few drinks, we started talking about kink and porn and such, and my partner mentioned that he sometimes enjoys watching some “pretty weird” (his words) hentai. I never really watched hentai myself, but I wasn’t necessarily put off by it, so I asked him a few more questions like what did he mean by “pretty weird.” He said basically “tentacle porn” etc. We kinda laughed about it and I didn’t think much more of it.
The other day we decided to watch porn together, and out of curiosity, I asked if he wanted to show me some of the hentai he liked. He agreed, and said if it made me uncomfortable at any time, to let him know. We ended up watching several different videos (not all of which actually involved tentacles), and in the moment, I was cool with it. Not something I would seek out and watch by myself, but we both got off.
The thing is, in hindsight, a couple things stand out to me about the videos he showed me, and they weren’t what I expected. First, they all had strong themes of non-consent. Now, I’m familiar with the kink world and I realize this is a very common kink, but my partner had never mentioned it to me before. Second, all of the (animated) girls in the videos seemed to be portrayed as, if not outright stated in the title to be, teenagers. This makes me a bit uncomfortable. I guess my question is, should I be concerned by this? I know my partner is a wonderful, kind person who has always treated me and everyone else with respect. I know that I could bring this up with him, but I don’t want to make him feel like I’m judging him and he has to hide these things from me. I’m just a little surprised, and honestly a little insecure, and not quite sure what to think.
Any input would be appreciated.
The Blue Girl