Today I’m introducing a new series of articles examining various notable figures in geek culture, why they’re popular and why nerds may want to emulate them. A set of nerd role models, as it were.
It can be easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of things to keep in mind when it comes to dating, especially when you’re on the socially awkward side. Some things may be glaringly obvious while others seem to make sense in concept but are less clear when you try to put them into practice. It can help to reframe the ideas, translating the concepts into an idiom with which the individual may be more comfortable. This is why so much of PUA culture is focused around jargon that doesn’t sound entirely out of place in a 25 man raid in World of Warcraft; it transforms the complexities of social interaction into simpler, more idiomatic concepts and metaphors that are less intimidating.
One thing about geek culture is that while there are plenty of examples of characters (some better than others) for those looking for long-term relationships to emulate, not everybody is looking for monogamy. Many are looking for more sex partners, whether it’s in an open relationship, fuckbuddies, friends-with-benefits, serial dating, or a series one-night stands… and there are far fewer positive examples to follow. Barney Stinson, for example, while charming, is a profoundly sexist, racist and toxic individual. However, nerds do have one of the greatest examples of a sex-positive, caring, polyamorous (in every sense of the word) role models in genre television and movies. Someone who provides an almost surprisingly positive model for those who want more sex and more sex partners without the strictures of traditional monogamy.
I give you…