Hello Doc! I have a problem and I feel very stupid asking this but… the girl I’m currently dating use to date a bodybuilder and, well, I’m not muscular. That alone triggers my alarms; why would a girl who dated a guy with perfect body want to date me? I can not offer her a…
gaslighting
Ask Dr. NerdLove: So What’s Wrong With Telling Women They’re “Being Crazy?”
Doctor’s Note: The second letter in today’s column deals with talk of suicide. Please proceed with caution, and if you’re having suicidal thoughts, please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. Hello, I recently read your article in the Washington Post about calling women crazy (or stopping). Your points are valid but it left…
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Why Is She Good Enough to Flirt With, But Not Good Enough to Date?
Hi, Doc! I (F, straight, cis, 29) am really fucking furious about something and I think I need a guy with lots of male-female insight to talk me off the ledge. In a therapy session last night with my AMAZING sex therapist (whom I decided to start seeing a few months ago to work out…
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How Can I Learn To Avoid Being A Victim?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I think I’ve come to the denouement of my real problem, but as it was a painful process and is still ongoing, I’d like to relate my story and see if you have any good advice for moving forward. I cut ties with a toxic partner about a week ago. I think…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Get Over Someone Who Didn’t Exist?
Dear Dr. NerdLove, I need help. I fell in love with a man three and a half years ago. He lived on another continent. It was hard. But we worked hard for it. We had miscommunications, he did things that hurt me, my mental health was hard to deal with at times, we both had…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Am I Leading On My Ex?
Dear Dr. NerdLove: This is the first time I (she/her) am making an effort to stay friends with my ex (he/him). We’ve been together for three years, sharing an apartment for 1.5 years. I ended things 4 months ago and moved out 1 month ago. Since the breakup, he has asked me multiple times in…