One of the hardest things to keep in mind when it comes to dating is that the work doesn’t end just because you’re in a relationship. It’s easy to get tunnel vision, especially when you’ve been working so hard at the early stages – developing your approach, learning how to generate attraction, etc. – that once you start having some successes… you don’t know quite what to do next. We’re taught to have unrealistic expectations about relationships; even when we understand intellectually that they take work and maintenance, in practice, we have a tendency to think that they’re supposed to be exercises in self-perpetuating happiness.
And it’s easy as long as you’re in the honeymoon stage, when your partner can do no wrong and her farts smell like rainbows and angel’s smiles, when even his bed-head is adorable and that weird noise he makes with his teeth when he’s thinking is quirky, not annoying.
But it’s what happens when the New Relationship Smell starts to fade and those cute little quirks are starting to be the things that drive you crazy that determines whether or not you’re going to have a long and happy relationship. If you want to have an amazing relationship, you have to know what it takes to make it last.