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Episode #141 — How To Get Your Ex Back… The RIGHT Way

April 29, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Last time, we talked about the recent trend of folks reaching out to their exes, why it’s happening so frequently and why it can be comforting to try to rekindle an old relationship.

But it’s far too easy to fall back to old patterns and old routines with your ex, which means you’re going to make the same old mistakes that lead to new pain.

Today, I’m going to teach you the RIGHT way to get your ex back.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

Why the most popular ways to get your ex back DON’T WORK
What you need to do before you try to reconnect with your ex
How to reach out to an ex without feeling forced, fake or manipulative
What to say to make your ex want to take you back
Why so many relationships fall apart for the second time… and how to avoid it

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

How To Deal With Your Ex

Why You Will Never Get Closure

How To Stay Friends After The Break-Up

Ask Dr. NerdLove: We Were On A Break

The 5 Things You Need To Get Over Your Breakup

When You SHOULDN’T Get Back With Your Ex (And When You Should)

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Episode #139 — How To Help Your Relationship Survive the COVID-19 Quarantine

April 15, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Self-isolation can be a trial for even the happiest lovers. Couples under quarantine are starting to feel the strain on their relationship. Relationships are rarely tested the way that they’re being tested now, and many people are discovering their relationship isn’t as happy or as strong as they they thought. In some parts of the world, divorce rates are starting to skyrocket as soon as quarantine orders have been lifted.

Don’t let that happen to YOUR relationship. In this free workshop, I’ll teach you what it takes to keep your relationship happy, healthy, safe and strong, so that your relationship can survive the COVID-19 crisis.

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE: How Do You Keep The Spark In Your Relationship?

January 22, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!

This week: How do you keep your relationship from fading into boredom? What’s the secret to keeping the spark making your long-term relationship feel as fresh and hot and alive as when you first met?

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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do We Stop Fighting Over Our Wedding?

September 23, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Hey Doc,

Long time reader, first time writing in. My fiancé (22) and I (23) have been together for a lovely 5 years, have never had a single fight and have been fairly good at communicating. Our wedding is scheduled for mid next year and we have of course got into the intensive planning phase.

She knows I’m tight with my money and don’t like to spend carelessly, but she’s always had a dream of a fancy (and expensive) wedding. I always thought that people that spent $20k-$25k or more on a wedding were insane and wasteful, especially in a world where people have so little. However, I was ok with picking a venue that costed $15k (which included the space, food, open bar, etc.) even if it was beyond my original budget (my attempt of compromising).

However, we got a price estimate for changing the chairs to a nicer style and the total cost for switching the chairs would have added over $1000 to the wedding price. My red alert goes off as this is a complete scam, why would we pay for this? I make my feelings known and she agrees to not do the chairs…until later that night she is crying (literally) about how the wedding isn’t going to be everything she dreamed of already and she misses her dad (who passed away when she was young) makes me feel terrible so I let her decide on whether she really wants the chairs.

This is really nagging at the principled part of me though that looks at how much time and energy I would have to spend to make $1000 just for chairs, and how so many people around the world barely have anything. She’s paying for a majority of the wedding (with money from her father’s passing) so I keep trying to tell myself, “It’s her money she can spend it however she wants.” The other part of me can’t believe that she’s just like, “well we have the money so we can spend it.”

Am I thinking to much about this? Is this standard marriage stress getting to me? Or is the principled part of me right to think that $1000 for chairs that no one will care about besides her is ridiculously wasteful?

Thanks for your advice,

Stereotypical Wedding Issues

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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Talk To My Girlfriend About Our Sex Life?

March 22, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Hey Doc,

I’ve been dating a particular woman (call her L) for over a month now. We’re pretty interested in each other, and if things continue like this, we’ll likely be in an official relationship soon. So far, so good, right?

With many other women, we’ve had sex by the 5th date. With L, we’ve been on 7 dates, made out multiple times on my bed, but no sex. That’s fine–I don’t want to rush her if she’s not ready. She also implied that she’s inexperienced with men, so maybe she’s a bit nervous sexually. I asked her briefly about this and she said she would be willing later in the relationship, and I didn’t press her to explain more.

I’m assuming L would eventually *want* to bang, just when she’s comfortable. But maybe not? Maybe her threshold is “1 year of dating”? I don’t want to wait a long time to find out I’m emotionally invested in someone who I’m not sexually compatible with (like, having the desire to have sex at least once a week).

How do I bring this topic up without sounding like I’m a dumb, horny dude?

Waiting To Begin

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