Doctor’s Note: I’m on vacation until the 12th of January. Until then, Paging Dr. NerdLove is going to be on a limited hiatus. The podcast will return when I’m back in town and meanwhile, I’ll be answering some quick questions for Ask Dr. NerdLove in lieu of the usual schedule. If you’ve got a question you need answered, now’s definitely the time to ask.
Dear Dr. NerdLove:
I really don’t know what I’m doing it seems. So, basically, I’m a girl, 16, and I’ve met a guy, also sixteen. We’ve been dating in this weird on off cycle for about five and a half months and it’s really quite strange to me.
First time he broke up with me because he… well he never really explained, he just said he tried to kill himself that night and we left it at that. Second time he broke up with me it was because I told him I could fall in love with him after he told me the same thing, Oh, and after sex, like, directly after. He just sort of freaked out about the potential ‘l’ word and ended everything.
But lo and behold, we are back together again and I just need a third party’s opinion on these things. I mean, if you take out the fact he’s positively cray-cray when it comes to this relationship business, he’s really a great guy. Funny, geeky (thank god), attractive, kind, straight-forward, did I mention the geeky part? He’s always got something interesting to say and he generally listens.
And then this past week it’s like he’s been ignoring me, I’d message him ask to hang out, and he wouldn’t respond for AGES, even though for some stupid reason facebook let me know he’d seen them. If he does respond it’s in very basic answers and he never tries to continue conversation, and I don’t understand as just over a week ago we were hanging out and everything went smooth as hell. We were like Zoe and Wash in Firefly, you know that good. So I dunno, if you’ve got some kind of advice for me that’d be great, I really like him, I mean I really am kind of in the midst of falling in love with him, but this douchey behavior… yuck. I don’t want to break up with him again, but I don’t know how to tell him any of my nerves without scaring him off, again.