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Episode #86 – How To Approach Women In Groups

July 26, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

A lot of men don’t know how to approach women in groups — whether they’re with other women or a mixed group of men, women and more. As a result, they tend to focus on that one person… and end up coming across like a hyena trying to separate a gazelle from the herd. Fortunately, it’s actually very easy to join in a groups, in a way that not only encourage them to accept you, but help you make a powerful connection almost immediately.

You just have to understand how to manage group dynamics.

Show Highlights:

What men get wrong about approaching groups of women
The common mistake that gets you rejected by groups
How men send the wrong signal when approaching women
Why talking to one person in the group is a mistake
Understand the power of the 3:2 ratio

…and so much more

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The No-Fear Guide To Navigating Parties Like A Pro

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Episode #81 – The Texting Mistakes That Cost You Dates

June 21, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

How often has this happened to you: you’ve got a woman’s number, but you never seem to be able to actually get a date. You may be doing great at first, but then you notice that it’s taking longer and longer for her to reply and those replies are getting shorter and shorter until you get… nothing. And now you’re left wondering just what happened… and why it keeps happening to you.

Texting may have been a godsend to shy, awkward guys who want to get dates, but you still have to know how to do it right. You may be used to talking with your thumbs like God intended, but that doesn’t mean that your texting game is all it should be. In fact, if you’re regularly getting radio silence or have a hard time turning numbers into dates, then you’re probably making one of these common texting mistakes.

Show Highlights:

How texting changed the dating game… and how it made things harder
Why so many men get ghosted after they get her number
The mistake men make when trying to build attraction over text
How even the most well-meaning men can end up ruining women’s interest in them through one wrong text
The number one mistake men make that costs them dates

…and so much more

Don’t forget to pre-order my new book I Got Her Number. Now What? A Geek’s Guide To Texting, Snapchatting and Sliding into DMs, coming July 24, 2018

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Find Your Flirting Style

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How To Avoid Getting “The Fade”

The Mistake Men Make That Cost Them Dates

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #57 – How To Tell Amazing Stories

December 7, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 1 Comment

Being interesting isn’t just about knowing things or having done incredible things. You also want to be able to share those experiences with others. Most of us don’t think about the way we present ourselves to others – not just in how we look or how we act, but about why people should want to get to know us or spend time with us.

This is why you need to know how to tell stories. When you’re in an interview and they ask you about a time that you overcame a challenge, you’re telling a story. When your date asks you about where you grew up or what you do for a living, you’re telling a story. When you’re pitching your services or your idea to others… you’re telling a story.

Telling a story about yourself is part of how you convey who you are. And the best, most interesting people out there are the ones who know how to convey information about themselves in a compelling, entertaining manner that not only gets the point across, but keeps the listener actively engaged.

Show Highlights:

Why how you tell your story is more important than what your story is about
How focusing on the end is the key to telling a good story
The way to structure a great story
The importance of creating vivid characters
Why every good story starts with the climax

…and so much more.

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How To Talk So People Will Listen

5 Secrets To Make People Like You

The Most Attractive Aspect of A Man (Isn’t Looks Or Money)

The Power of Expressiveness

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Paging Dr. Nerdlove Episode #55 – How To Create A Powerful, Instant Connection With Anyone

November 23, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

How many times have you had a conversation that went something like this: you think you’ve been doing well, but as soon as you’re done talking, that’s it and they’ve basically forgotten you exist. This is a common sticking point for a lot of men.

Part of what makes one person pleasant but forgettable and the other magnetic is all about that connection, that sense of “we’ve just met but I’ve known you forever”. That feeling of “there’s just something about you that really appeals to me.” These are the sorts of moments that lead people to believe in soulmates.

But here’s the dirty little secret: you can do this deliberately. While yes, this sort of connection can happen by chance, when you understand why we connect with people, you can actually build that connection by choice.

Show Highlights:

What is the single biggest mistake people make in trying to connect with people?
How to keep the conversation flowing smoothly
Why we feel like we’ve known people forever, even though we’ve just met
Why similarity is so important in building a connection

…and so much more

Related Links:

The Subtle Things That Make A Man More Attractive – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/subtle-things-make-men-attractive/

Make The Right First Impression – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/make-right-first-impression/

How To Be Charming – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-be-charming/

5 Body Language Tricks That Increase Attraction – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-body-language-tricks-that-increase-attraction/

5 Ways To Boost Your Charisma – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/5-boost-charisma/

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How To Talk To Attractive Women

February 27, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 334 Comments

One of the hardest things for many men to do is to simply talk to attractive women. It’s hard enough simply making that first approach, but once you get there, what the hell do you say? Worse, you have your opener planned out but for some reason, there’s a disconnect between your brain and your mouth. You know that you have the eloquence of a modern day Baudelaire, but when you open your mouth, all that comes out is gibberish. How are you supposed to talk to this woman when it seems like English has become your second or third language?

On the plus side, maybe she’ll think that “Baw-Di-Baw” is a way of sharing your mutual love of Kid Rock?

Trying to talk to attractive women is – not surprisingly – pretty intimidating. The stakes feel so much higher than just shooting the shit with your friends and you feel like you need to bring your A-game. Worse, your brain short-circuits. The old joke that guys have enough blood to run the penis or the brain but not both may be hacky… but it’s not entirely wrong. Studies suggest that talking to attractive women really does make you stupid – at least temporarily.

So how do you learn to overcome being a blithering idiot and start talking to attractive women like it was no big deal?

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