One of the hardest things you can do — that anyone can do, really — is to try to unlearn something. Especially something that you aren’t even aware that you’ve learned. This sounds like an impossibility; how can you have learned something without being aware of having learned it? But in practice, it’s like the old David…
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Learning The (Love) Lessons of End of Evangelion
One of the issues that can make discussing dating and self-improvement difficult is just how abstract some of the ideas we talk about can be. It’s one thing to talk about concepts like the difference between internal or external validation or what being charming looks like in practice. That’s why it can be handy to…
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The Trouble With Incels
When Alek Minnasian drove his van into groups of pedestrians, the world went looking for answers. A post on his personal Facebook page – one where Minnassian referred to incels, the Incel Rebellion and hailing “Supreme Gentleman Elliot Roger – seemed almost too perfect. After all, 4chan boards like /pol/ have a long history of…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Can He Love Her If He Already Loves Me?
Doctor, I need your help. I am not attracted to anyone in my area, not a single one. It’s either the horrible voice or being underweight or overweight, or the terrible personality (I have this one) It honestly seems like everyone sucks where I am, and it’s the exact same no matter what area I…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Hating Myself?
Hey Doc, long time reader, first time poster. I’m 20 years old and my MAJOR problem is that I am a badly socialized spiteful thrall of technology (or asshole) Needless to say I am disappointed by this to say the least. Shit I’m average and VERY replaceable as far as humans go. When I say…
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