Dear Dr. NerdLove, It occurs to me to write for your input because of both of your interests as a nerd and a (former) PUA. For many, those two interests don’t go hand-in-hand, yet you seem to have found a comfortable balance. So here is my trouble. I have many different hobbies, interests, and values…
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These Self-Limiting Beliefs Are Holding You Back
Here’s a secret a lot of dating coaches won’t tell you: most of your dating problems are in your head. This isn’t to say that they don’t exist – it’s that most people’s sticking points tend to be the result of self-limiting beliefs. And the crazy part is that we tend to want to keep them. In fact, more…
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When Masculinity Fails Men
It’s been an interesting week for talking about masculinity. To start with, ABC’s 20/20 aired a story about the Manosphere and the Men’s Rights Movement (which, ironically enough seems to have touched off a weird Jay-Z/Nas-esque feud between two leading voices of the MRM). The Daily Beast provided a thoughtful, if somewhat flawed, report on the…
Leveling Up: How To Reinvent Yourself
There’s a long and glorious tradition around this time of year, as summer nights reach their peak and slowly melt into fall: trying to reinvent yourself. This is especially true for first-time college students: as they enter a life away from their family – and often the majority of their social circle – they look…
Learn From This: The Great Gatsby
I’ve been meaning to do a Learn From This for The Great Gatsby for a while now. I’m an unabashed Baz Luhrmann fan, and there really wasn’t a director I could think of who was better suited stylistically to match the opulence, excesses, vacuousness and conspicuous consumption of the Hamptons in the Jazz Age. While…