Doctor’s Note: I’m on vacation until the 12th of January. Until then, Paging Dr. NerdLove is going to be on a limited hiatus. The podcast will return when I’m back in town and meanwhile, I’ll be answering some quick questions for Ask Dr. NerdLove in lieu of the usual schedule. If you’ve got a question you need answered, now’s definitely the time to ask.
Hi! I’m a 25 year old man, and I’m dating a girl about two months.
She is the most interesting girl I’ve ever met (I have a small experience with relationships, but enought to know when the girl worth the “long term investment”).
A month ago she told me she needs to travel to another country to study. She really needs it, as a “test to become an adult person”, and she’s planning to go the end of this year. She is 28 year old and she fears she won’t have any more chance. And, as she said, she might never come back. In her area of job, the conditions are better outside of our country. If she finds a job there, maybe she won’t come back.
So, I need to say: I’m terrified! I’m trying to enjoy the moments we are together, but sometimes I think to much in the future. I’m a worried person.
Furthermore, I’m feeling that thing we used to call “passion”, that I really hate. I would like to don’t lose my mind in this and become obsessive.
So, what can I do? I don’t really want to take the easy way, that’s to stop the relationship. I think this is cowardice and I can lost really good moments with her, but I can’t enjoy these moments with the mind confused.
I would like to simply don’t feel passionate, to face it lightly, and, if there’s something I can do to change this situation, I would like to know what can I do. I thought about going with her on the interchange, but I don’t know if this is a “healthy” solution, I would ignore my real objetives to be with her.
I need help…=(
Sorry for the bad English, it’s not my native language! =)
Thanks in advance! =D
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