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How The Right Life Makes Meeting Women Easier

July 17, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 162 Comments

There are a lot of ways to go about meeting women. You can do cold approaches – whether at bars, clubs, parties or even your local Barnes & Noble. You can focus your time and attention on online dating and building the perfect dating profile. Hell, you can sit around and hope for the Universe to provide you with a date.

I mean, it won’t work, but you can do it.

“Maybe if I complain on Reddit just a little more…”

But no matter what path you decide to follow, there’s one area that you can’t afford to neglect: your life. Guys who spend time building and maintaining the right life will find that they are naturally and effortlessly attracting women. They aren’t using any special technique or high-value secret. They’re simply leading a life that women want to be a part of – and one that brings them together with virtually no work on his part.

There is no technique that is going to compensate for not having your shit together. There’s no dating profile photo that is going to overcome not having anything in your life. But if you have your shit together and are following some best practices for a fulfilling, happy life? Then you’ll find that you’re meeting women almost effortlessly.

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Build Your Perfect Relationship

July 10, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 89 Comments

We all want to have an amazing relationship. The problem is that most of us go about it the wrong way. See, one of the mistakes we make when it comes to relationships is that we tend to assume there’s one way to have them. We accept the default mode without thinking about it. Worse: we rarely talk about what we expect from a relationship until after it’s started to fall apart.

The mistake is that – once we’ve chosen our partner – we tend to assume the work is done. The credits are going to roll and everything else is going to be sitcom-esque bliss, complete with laugh tracks and neighbors with curious ideas about boundaries. Then, three fights later about cake batter and alternate uses for pastry bags, and your slice of Heaven has turned into a new layer of Hell.

“WHAT POSSESSED YOU TO PUT K-Y IN THERE?!” “YOU WERE THE ONE WHO TOLD ME ABOUT YOUR GREAT BRITISH BAKE-OFF FANTASY!”

When we let relationships just “happen”, we increase the likelihood of conflict and ugly break-ups. But by taking the time in the beginning of a relationship, we can build the love affair of our dreams.

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How To Be Sexier

June 26, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 199 Comments

Last week we talked about part of how somebody can get the sex they want without relying on douchebaggery. This week, we’re going to continue that trend and talk about how guys can learn to become sexier. After all, we’re not just people, sometimes we’re also pieces of meat, and we would like to be treated accordingly.

Insert "cock" joke here. — Now tell me: were you paying attention to me? Or that perfectly roasted chicken?

One of the things that trips people up regularly is that we mistake being attractive for sex-appeal. The two often intertwine, but they aren’t the same thing. After all, there are people of all genders who’re attractive but have the sex appeal of a rock. A particularly selfish rock. At the same time, there are people who may have the face of a bulldog chewing on a thistle, but they radiate sex appeal. This isn’t a matter of feel-good woo woo bullshit; there’ve been a number of studies that have documented how certain aspects and personality traits outweigh physical looks when it comes to influencing who women want to have sex with.

Sexiness is about what makes somebody decide they want to sleep with you or not. Being good looking can help, it’s not the only issue. We’ve all encountered someone with a body to make a saint kick out a stained glass window, but five seconds of conversation killed any interest in sex. They might be dumb as a post. It may be that they got off to the idea of crush videos. It may be that they were a Hanzo main. Regardless: they were attractive… but not sexy.

The key is to remember that being sexy is about the holistic person, not any one factor. The traits that make people sexier tend to stack; like the best buffs, individual traits combine to create a sexy, mouthwatering whole.

And the good news is: these are all things that you can learn and develop. If you know what traits to pay attention to and cultivate?

Well, that means you can make yourself into that sexy love machine you’ve always wanted to be. Ready to get started?

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The Secret to Getting Laid (Without Losing Your Soul)

June 19, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 286 Comments

Modern dating has a number of benefits. Changing social mores mean that sex and dating are less complicated and more accessible than at any point in history. The advent of the Internet and the subsequent development of smartphones mean that finding people you’re interested in is easier than ever. Even simply wanting to get laid has become easier with apps like Tinder making finding someone who’s explicitly down to fuck a literal push-button exercise.

But while accessibility and availability may be easier… the process of actually getting sex can feel more complicated than ever. If you’re an even half-way decent guy, it can feel like wanting sex or trying to get it makes you awful by definition. After all, most of the modern examples of men trying to get laid tend to revolve around toxic environments and behaviors. Pop culture is rife with characters – including protagonists – who will cheerfully resort to any amount of shitty behavior in order to get laid. Even in real life, we only have to look to pick-up artists and their misogynistically frustrated evolved form, the Red Pill,1 selling social pressure and psychological trickery as the means to the end.

At the same time, we can go on Twitter, Tumblr and Facebook and see women sharing stories about men who used unpleasant or even threatening actions in an attempt to get into their pants.

And then there’re the guys who just leap straight to the “Diiiick?” stage.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex, with wanting a casual relationship without commitment or wanting to have multiple partners. The key to getting more sex isn’t about secret techniques or trying to convince, trick or compel women into sleeping with you. Sex isn’t an antagonistic exercise of trying to bargain down the “price”, it’s in understanding how to connect with people. If you want to learn about getting laid without losing your soul in the process, you have to understand the mindset of a true seducer.

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The Mistake Men Make That Costs Them Dates

June 5, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 324 Comments

How often do you wish that getting laid was easier? Do you regularly wonder why some men get all the luck while you’re stuck home alone on the weekends? What if I told you that there was one mistake you were making – one that most men make, in fact – that is keeping you from the love life you desire?

You’d probably leap on it wouldn’t you?

“Doc, quit selling and just tell me how much it is already!”

Everywhere you look, people will try to sell you “one weird trick” to get women into bed. I mean, everyone’s looking for that trick, that gimmick, that one-size fits all solution that’s going to win them all the sex. It’s really tempting to feel that after doing all the prep-work, there’s just one thing left to do that will soak the panties of every woman you come across.

And therein lies the rub. There is. But it’s not what you think.

See, it’s not that you need to find this psychological trick to get out of the Friend Zone. You don’t need this routine or this mindset or this pill or this technique to make women want you. In fact, it’s not about learning anything. It’s about unlearning something. And that may be the hardest thing you can do.

But if you do… you will find your success with women taking off like a goddamn crotch-sized Saturn V rocket.