There’s a question from my PUA days that I used to ask women: “what do you have going for you besides your looks?” I freely admit, it was a bit of a neg. It’s asking “sure, you’re cute, but why should I be interested in you?” It was a way of saying “tell me what makes you worth my time?”
The ironic thing is, all that time, I was asking the right question to the wrong people. This is a question I needed to ask myself. And now I’m asking it of you.Regardless of whether you think you’re attractive or not – what do you have going for you besides your looks? What is there about you that makes you special? Why should women be interested in you?
Learning how to be someone worth dating isn’t about looks. There’s more to it than just dressing well. Dating success is not about how good you are at flirting or how much sex you have. It’s about who you are as a holistic person. It’s about your lifestyle – what you do beyond just mere existence. What drives you? What do you live for? Do you grab life by the horns, or do you let it just happen?
No matter how much you have going on the surface, women aren’t going to find you worth dating if you’re ultimately hollow. On the other hand, if you live an attractive lifestyle, you will find women are coming to you – almost without effort.
That’s why, for this chapter of the Level Up series, we’re going to talk developing an attractive, fulfilling lifestyle.