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Episode #102 – Is Masturbation Bad For You? Understanding The NoFap Movement

December 5, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

To fap or not to fap… that is the question. Are there health benefits to giving up masturbation? Is porn addiction a real thing?
And just what is the NoFap movement, anyway?

It’s time talk about sex with someone you love… yourself.

Show Highlights:

Why the “dangers” of masturbation haven’t changed in hundreds of years
The connection between testosterone and masturbation
Why NoFap gives “super powers”
Why stigmatizing masturbation can be dangerous
Why the real problem is shame, not masturbation

…and so much more.

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The “Problem” With Male Virginity –

Did Porn Ruin Our Sex Life?

Porn and The Real World

What We Get Wrong About Sex

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Episode #99 – Let’s Talk About Toxic Femininity

November 14, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

One of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity. It’s something that I personally feel is important to talk about because of how much it directly affects men and makes our lives that much harder and that much worse. However, whenever we talk about masculinity in any form, there is such a regular response from people, in the comments and on twitter and elsewhere, that you can practically set your watch by it: “when are you going to talk about toxic femininity?”

And you know what? Fine. Buckle up folks, ‘cuz we’re doing this.

Show Highlights:

Why nobody can agree on a definition of “toxic femininity”
What we don’t understand about toxic masculinity… and how that affects how we see femininity
Who gets to define what is or isn’t toxic behavior
What are the differences between “toxic” forms of manhood vs. womenhood
What is the source of toxic femininity

…and so much more.

Related Links:

What is Toxic Masculinity?

How Men Make Women Feel Unsafe

Why Is It So Hard To Be A Good Man

Nerd Role Models: Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

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Episode #96 – This Is Why You Fail

October 24, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

How often has the frustration of being single gotten to you? How many times have you asked yourself: why aren’t you going to get any better? Why do other people find love and you don’t? Why aren’t you able to build the life that you want to live and be the man you dream about being? It’s time to talk about the reason why so many guys won’t find a girlfriend or lover… and what you can do to avoid their mistake.

Show Highlights:

What is the Negativity Bias and why does it ruin your social success?
Why so many men choose pain over love
Why we believe that truth has to hurt
How men’s anxieities cause them to self-destruct
How to build the strength you need to keep going

…and so much more.

Related Links:

What Is Toxic Masculinity? – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/what-is-toxic-masculinity/

Build Your Emotional Resilience – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/build-emotional-resilience/

Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/your-attitude-controls-your-dating-success/

The Only Thing In The Way of Social Success – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/only-thing-in-way-success/

Redefining Failure – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/redefining-failure/

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Episode #94 – How To Be A Better Man

October 10, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Over the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on surivors. And as more women speak up, sharing their stories, sharing their pain and their rage, there are guys — guys who don’t want to be part of the problem, who want to be good men — who want to know what they can do to make things better.

And the answer is simple: men need to step up. We need to learn to be the men we were always meant to be and the men the world needs right now. We need to learn how to be better.

Show Highlights:

Why men need to do the work to make the world better
How the system we live in keeps men from seeing the realities women live with
Why it’s important to simply listen to women
What #believewomen actually means
Why we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable

…and so much more

Related Links:

Nerds and Male Privilege

What Does It Take To Be A Better Man?

Reclaiming Manhood: Detoxifying Toxic Masculinity

Why It’s So Hard To Be A Good Man

Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

Straight White Male: The Lowest Difficulty Setting There Is

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Episode #80: How To Make Friends As an Adult

June 14, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Men on the whole, and white, heterosexual men in particular, tend to have fewer friends than women and the friendships they do have tend to be shallower and less fulfilling. It’s really not uncommon for guys to look up and realize just how few friends they have outside of family members and romantic relationships. And by then… it feels like it’s too late. After all, it’s easy to make friends when you’re in college. But how do you go about making friends when you’re a grown man?

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