One of the never-ending struggles for men is the dichotomy of the Nice Guys vs. the Tough Guys. The Nice Guy is sexually null, a pathetic being who can’t earn a woman’s affection through his own worth and so attempts to weasel his way into her heart (and pants). The Tough Guy though… he’s the dude…
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Nerd Role Models: Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity
This week, we’re returning to the topic of masculinity and how to be a good man in an era when what it means to be a man is changing. And to look at modern masculinity, we’re going to take a look at a character from the past. A man out of time, even; dropped from his time…
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A Gentleman’s Guide To Not Being An Asshole
If the Internet is known for one thing it’s for putting all of the porn ever created in one place just so we can find it and deal with unexpected challenges to our sexuality. If it’s known for two things, it’s that it is the natural breeding ground of the asshole. In fact, the idea that assholes…
Why Is It So Hard To Be A Good Man?
Ever feel like trying to be a good man is almost impossible? Whenever I write about masculinity, I hear from a lot of men who feel hemmed in by what they perceive as the seemingly contradictory rules and restrictions that surround masculine behavior, particularly when it comes to dealing with women. And in fairness, it can be…
How Do You Find Your Masculinity?
One of the things I like to talk about on here is the concept of masculinity. The concept of being a “real man” is one that’s caused no end of distress, anxiety and out and out pain to well-meaning men. Trying to live up to the societal construct of “masculinity” is in many ways a rigged…
Pacific Rim and Lessons in Positive Masculinity
This week, we’re returning to the subject of Nerd Role Models, where we examine some of the most popular characters in pop-culture and what you can learn from them. After last week’s discussion about reclaiming what it means to be a man from the restrictions of toxic masculinity, it’s time to look at a movie…
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