I have a question that may pertain to broader issues of gender roles. So I have a feeling that girls don’t like me because I’m too accommodating, which is seen as a “girly” thing. Basically I apologize for shit too much. People seem to very aware that women are raised to apologize for things and not step on any toes, but it seems like I’m super screwed because people expect me to fall into the “man role” at all times and just be a dick and don’t worry about anything. Yes, women have to be super passive, but as a black kid raised in a white community, you have to be just as careful, or else people will blame you for everything. As a kid I was taught to make sure never to piss off any teachers, or play with white girls, because they’re too fragile, or do anything except color in between the lines, and now I’ve lost the “manliness” that I was supposed to grow up with. People seem to expect that a black man is going to just plow through life, 8 inch dick first, but that’s not me. What exactly can I do? Just act more like a man? Girls seem to think I’m too “innocent” to date. Not that I’ve had much data to collect, only dated 3 girls across all four years of college, but none were interested to stay longer than a month, or have sex. I’m stuck between fighting bullshit stereotypes and getting what I want.
Big Old Teddy Bear