Doctor’s Note: one of the letters for this week’s column involves the description of a sexual assault.
Hi Doc, I have a strange situation, but I’m sure you’ve heard it all.
I live in a house with three other people. Two of the people are married, and the other is recently divorced and is 33 and the niece of the woman in the married relationship. I have been friends with the 33 year old for about 12 years. I am 20 years older than her, and when are friendship first started we would mostly go hiking and see movies (we didn’t live in the same house then either). We were both attracted to each other and the friendship remained platonic, but something was always there. We always had a tacit agreement that the age difference was too great.
She met a guy and got married and I was really happy for her. It worked out that I bought a house with her aunt an husband, and they rented a room from us. This worked out fine until the marriage started getting rough, and she would ask me questions like “you still love me, right?”. The marriage ended about nine months ago and it has been strange living in the house across the hall from someone I have feelings for, and having her aunt there complicates things more. I still get comments from her like “what would I do without you” and “if we were the same age”.
I can’t stay in this situation a lot longer, my thoughts are:
– Tell her yes, I do love her and age is just a number let’s give this a try.
– Asking her to move out because the living situation is no longer healthy (this may wreck the relationship with people I own the house with)
– Deciding it is time to sell the house and move on to the next phase of my life
PerlandraActually there was one guy who thought I was too thin, and four who thought I was too heavy.
I agree they're either too caught up in fantasy or they just don't know what they're talking about.
GreyI've noticed less people saying "be confident" (since Trump). There has been more "be present".
Which seems to be what most people want. If your confidence but your mind is in another room it's quite...