You know what intimidates the hell out of guys trying to meet new women?
If you’re not the most outgoing of people, if you’re a little on the socially awkward side, there’s nothing quite as bad as seeing someone you’re interested in and realizing that she’s there with a group of friends. Maybe it’s all girls, maybe it’s all guys, maybe it’s a mixed group. Doesn’t matter. You just know that if you want to talk to her, you’re going to have to wade in there and face down the judgemental stares of not just one but many people. You’ve just increased your risk of being shot down exponentially; now you don’t have to worry about the girl you like shooting you down, you have to worry about her friends doing it. And worse, now you’re going to get shot down in front of an audience. And you just know they’re going to be laughing and talking about you afterwards, right?
Better to just wait until you can get her alone… so now you’re hovering in the background and her friends are starting to notice you’re there and they’re moving away and ohgodtheycansmelltheloseronmeandimgoingtodiealone…
Chill out Beavis.
Handling groups, whether it’s on campus, at parties or at a bar, isn’t that difficult. In fact, if you play your cards right, it can actually make things easier.