Breakups and rejection are an inevitable part of dating. It doesn’t matter whether you’re absurdly hot or not, whether you’ve never had a date in your life or your social life puts Hugh Hefner’s to shame; you’re going to get your heart broken at some point or another. You’re going to be miserable. You’re going to feel like the one shot you had at love has gone and now you’re destined to never know anything other than pain. And one of the things that people are going to tell you over and over again is: “Dude, you need to get over her.”
Of course, if it were just so simple to get over someone, everyone would do it, right? Nobody’d be getting cases of Oneitis and getting hung up on their exes and we’d all just be laughing and dancing through fields of wildflowers, blissfully leaving the ruins of our hopes and dreams behind, tra la tra la.
Except… yeah, it is pretty simple. It’s not easy to get over someone, don’t get me wrong. But it is simple. The problem is that, more often than not, we’re making it harder to get over the pain. So if you’ve loved not wisely but well and had your heart torn out of your chest, it’s time to stop sabotaging your own recovery process. This isn’t going to be fun, but it is necessary It’s time to learn how to let go and get over her.