Whenever the topic of dating comes up amongst my friends, I’m always struck by the number of them who hated the process of dating. They couldn’t stand it: the frustrations of trying to find the right person, the disappointment of another “close-but-no-cigar” first date that went absolutely nowhere. Even worse were the near-misses, the people who seemed amazing but disappeared into the ether after a handful of dates, or the Crouching Stud, Hidden Douchebags who seemed great at first glance but proved to be assholes in disguise. There were the dates that were so bad they crushed the soul, the long parade of assholes, game-players and just plain toxic individuals who would be better off buried in unmarked landfills inscribed with dire warnings to alert future generations to the dangers.
Now I’ll be the first to tell you that dating is hard. It can be frustrating and time-consuming and there will be dates that make you believe that the dating pool needs a Herculean dose of chlorine before you’ll ever step foot into it again.
But at the same time, it can be fun. And, in fact, it should be. You can’t insulate yourself against dating’s inherent frustrations, but you can learn how to make dating enjoyable again.