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Episode #94 – How To Be A Better Man

October 10, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Over the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on surivors. And as more women speak up, sharing their stories, sharing their pain and their rage, there are guys — guys who don’t want to be part of the problem, who want to be good men — who want to know what they can do to make things better.

And the answer is simple: men need to step up. We need to learn to be the men we were always meant to be and the men the world needs right now. We need to learn how to be better.

Show Highlights:

  • Why men need to do the work to make the world better
  • How the system we live in keeps men from seeing the realities women live with
  • Why it’s important to simply listen to women
  • What #believewomen actually means
  • Why we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable

…and so much more

Related Links:

Nerds and Male Privilege

What Does It Take To Be A Better Man?

Reclaiming Manhood: Detoxifying Toxic Masculinity

Why It’s So Hard To Be A Good Man

Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

Straight White Male: The Lowest Difficulty Setting There Is

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Episode #70 – Bridging The Love Gap with Jenna Birch

March 22, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Normally when I talk about dating issues, I’m talking about issues that primarily affect men, from a man’s perspective. However, it can also be incredibly useful to look at the dating issues that women face as well. Not only does this help overcome misconceptions that men often have about the dating experience for women, but also illustrates ways that our own misunderstandings about relationships and what women want can get in the way of dating success. So this week, I’m talking with Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win at Life And Love about her book, what women go through in the modern dating world and what straight men might want to know about dating from the other side of the equation.

Show Highlights:

  • How men and women approach dating differently
  • Why what we say we want in a partner and what we actually pursue are often so different
  • Laser thinking vs. Web thinking
  • How Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs can affect your love life
  • Why backburnering may not be a bad thing after all

And so much more…

Related Links:

The Love Gap: A Radical Plan To Win At Life And Love

What Do Women Really Want In A Man?

Is She Right For You?

Five Times You Shouldn’t Be Dating

The Dating Advice People Need to STOP Giving

Five Behaviors That Ruin Relationships

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Episode #68 – What Do Women Want in a Man?

March 1, 2018 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Last week, a Twitter user posted a comment about actor Michael B. Jordan – claiming that he was a 5’9” grown man living with his parents who openly loved anime and that this ran contrary to what women found attractive in men.

Regardless of issues like factual errors, this tweet is a great example of myths that many men have about what women find attractive – or unattractive – in men – myths that are frequently wrong.

In fact, the belief in these myths is often a source of anxiety and stress for guys who don’t measure up to the ideas of “what makes a real man” – like we talked about in my previous episode.

This week,we’re going to bust a few dating myths and talk about what women actually find attractive.

Show Highlights:

  • How myths about female desire teach men the wrong lessons about attraction
  • What women really think of your job
  • Why your height doesn’t matter the way you think
  • The real secret to social and sexual success with women
  • They body type women really want

…and so much more.

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What Bad Boys Know (That Nice Guys Don’t)

The Mistakes Men Make That Cost Them Dates

The Most Attractive Aspect of a Man (Isn’t Looks or Money)

The Economics of Sex

The New (And Impossible) Standards of Male Beauty

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #42 – Casual Sex and Where To Find It

August 24, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 40 Comments

While lots of guys who want to get better with women are looking to find that special someone, there are also a lot of guys out there who are hoping to find more sexual partners and some no-strings attached fooling around. The thing is… they have no idea where to go about finding people who’re down for casual sex.

This is in no small part because, frankly, they’re asking the wrong questions. Often the real question isn’t “where”… but “how“. This week, we’re talking about why people are or aren’t down for some casual sex and the best ways to go about finding it. 

Show Highlights:

  • Why more people are up for casual sex than you’d expect
  • The flaws of the infamous Campus Casual Sex study
  • What makes women decide they’re interested in having sex with a stranger
  • The mistakes men make looking for hook-ups on Tinder
  • What you can do to make finding a casual partner easier

…and so much more.

Related Links:

How To Be Sexier

The Truth About Casual Sex

Nerd Role Models: Captain Jack Harkness

How To Get Laid (Without Being a F*ckboy)

Perceived proposer personality characteristics and gender differences in acceptance of casual sex offers.

Gender Differences and Similarities in Receptivity to Sexual Invitations: Effects of Location and Risk Perception

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #26 – How To Conquer Shyness

April 27, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 4 Comments

A lot of people tend to let shyness get in the way of their social success – especially at times when they would long to meet other people. Fortunately, shyness isn’t an immutable or permanent part of who you are. While it feels like it’s a core part of your personality, shyness is something that you can overcome. Understanding why we feel shy around some people and how to fix that will help you become the social, gregarious person you long to be. 

Show Highlights:

  • Why shyness isn’t the same as introversion and why it’s important to recognize the difference
  • Recognizing the roots of shyness
  • Why “opposites attract” is completely wrong
  • Why somebody’s perceived social value makes us shy around them
  • The quickest way to get comfortable with a stranger

and so much more.

Related Links:

5 Secrets to Make People Like You

How To Be a High-Status Man

Level Up: Facing Your Dating Fears

How To Make Small Talk (For People Who Hate Small Talk)

Don’t Let Your Fear Hold You Back

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