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Episode #156 — This is Why Dating Sucks for Men (And How To Fix It)

December 9, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Let’s be honest: dating can be a trial. For a lot of men, dating isn’t something you enjoy, it’s something you endure. From trying to meet women, to getting a number, to actually getting women out on a date… it’s more like pulling teeth than meeting a potential partner.

Today, I want to give you all some advice I wish I had gotten back when I first started dating. Because, if you’re checking out these episodes, then the odds are good that, frankly, you think dating… kinda sucks. And in fairness: you’re not entirely wrong. Dating for men can be kind of awful. But not for the reasons you might think.

In fact, the biggest reason why dating can suck is because of how much harder we men make it for OURSELVES and in the process, make ourselves miserable… even when we think we’re doing everything right.

So let’s look at 5 reasons why dating can SUCK for men… and what you can do about it.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why men have a conflict mentality when it comes to dating
  • The secret to passing women’s “tests”
  • Why so much of what you believe about women, dating and sex is WRONG.
  • How guys get caught in a cycle of dating failure
  • Why you’re taking the wrong advice about how to meet women

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

How To Meet Women, Effortlessly

What Men Need To Know About Attraction

The Truth About Casual Sex (And Where To Get It)

This Is Why Online Dating Sucks

The Fear of Being Invisible

The Love Gap

Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex and the Truths They Reveal

What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Sexual Desire

Simplified Dating

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Episode #155 — The 5 Things That Make People Like You… Instantly.

November 18, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

The most magnetic, charming and well liked people aren’t popular because of their looks, their money, or their bodies. People like them because of they make others feel and the value that they bring into other peoples’ lives. These 5 qualities will help you create stronger, more profound connections with others, teach you to be instantly charismatic and become incredibly well liked by everyone around you.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why genuine likeability and personal magnetism are rare qualities, even in Hollywood
  • Why sharing the spotlight makes you more popular
  • How triggering one emotion in people makes them like you, instantly
  • Why passion is so attractive in others
  • How authenticity and vulnerability make people want to spend more time with you

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

These Are The Things You Only Learn When Your Friend Dies

Popularity 101

The Value of Authenticity

The “It” Factor

How To Be Charming

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Episode #154 — The Secret To Building Incredible Emotional Strength And Powerful Confidence

November 5, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you’re in a relatively good place, we’re all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say “how am I supposed to have the strength to keep going?”

But you need that emotional strength, powerful confidence and positive attitude more than ever. And the first step is to recognize the things that are stealing your happiness and sabotaging your life and learn how to build the emotional strength it takes to persevere, that appealing confidence and the positive attitude that can help build strong relationships and help you face and overcome the challenges in your life that seem impossible.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Why one simple word can ruin your self-confidence
  • How we convince ourselves that we’re powerless… when we’re not
  • The mistake we make that makes us miserable… no matter what we do
  • How we talk ourselves out of success
  • Why your rivals can be your greatest allies

… and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

The 5 Things You Need To Know To Succeed At Dating

What “Forged In Fire” Can Teach Us About Manhood

Unlearning Helplessness

You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

“Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success”

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Episode #153 — The Secret to Stronger, Healthier Relationships

October 21, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Have you struggled with relationships that were bad for you?

Maybe you’ve been in a toxic relationship with somebody who was always manipulating you into ways of getting what they wanted, leaving you feeling like a doormat. Maybe you had friends who treated you badly or would pressure you into going along with jokes at your expense or doing things that made you uncomfortable or went against your values.

Or perhaps you’ve had family members who would leverage guilt or reciprocity to make you do whatever they want, even if it’s a huge inconvenience to you or emotionally draining or even damaging. Or you were constantly being made to feel as though your interests, desires or wants were unimportant or inconvenient… even if it’s simply “don’t treat me like sh*t.”

One of the most important things you can do to ensure you have strong, healthy relationships — with your wife or girlfriend, your friends, your family or even your co-workers — is to have strong boundaries.

Today, I’m going to teach you how to build strong boundaries… and how to enforce them.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What one viral video teaches us about toxic relationships
  • Why abusers and toxic people prey on people with weak boundaries
  • How abusers trick you into lowering your boundaries for them
  • How to push back when people push against your boundaries
  • The most important part of maintaining healthy relationships

…and so much more

RELATED LINKS:

What Will You Put Up With? Boundaries, Self-Esteem and Dating

Enforcing Your Boundaries

How Do I Avoid Abusive Relationships?

How Do I Get My Family To Respect My Boundaries?

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Episode #152 — This Is What Nobody Tells You About Having ADHD

October 7, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Growing up, I knew I was struggling with things that other people seemed to be able to do without a second thought. I thought I was just lazy, that I needed to be more disciplined and to take things more seriously. But it never worked, and I never understood why.

Now, after a lifetime of searching, I finally have the answers.

This week, I want to talk with you about my experiences with having been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how it can affect you and your relationships, and my experiences with getting diagnosed and getting treated.

Here’s what happened.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

  • What people get wrong about ADHD
  • Why so many people don’t get diagnosed or treated when they need it
  • How having ADHD can affect your confidence and your relationships
  • Why people with ADHD have anxiety and depression
  • How getting treatment has changed my life

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS: 

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/overcome-your-fear-of-rejection/

Top 5 Dating Mistakes — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/top-5-dating-mistakes/

This is What Happened After I Tried Meditation for 30 Days — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/this-is-what-happened-after-30-days-of-meditation/

You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-unlearn-what-you-have-learned/

When It’s Time To Ask For Help — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/when-its-time-to-ask-for-help/

ADHD In Adults — https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-in-adults/

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