Reinventing yourself – is a tricky business. You’re essentially trying to break the habits of a lifetime and transform yourself into the person you’ve always wanted to be – a process that can take months, if not years. It entails examining everything about yourself, discarding the parts you don’t like and rebuilding yourself from the ground up.
Here’s the thing though: that’s the easy part.
Oh, I know: “You call rebuilding my life easy?” And yes. Yes I do. Because that’s just the start.
No, the hard part is maintaining that new life. Whether it’s losing weight, improving your social life or building a whole new you, the real work begins when you’re trying to make those changes stick. In fact, one of the most insidious parts of trying to live with this new and improved you is the feeling that you’re just faking it and the real you is lurking under the surface, ready to re-emerge at the worst possible moment like a shark that can smell a single drop of social anxiety from a mile away…
You see, the thing about self-improvement is that the initial changes are easy, relatively speaking. You’re powered by hope and imagination at first; you’re so excited by the idea of the new you that you’re can power through those initial sticking-points and tests of resolve. But here’s the thing: a body at rest wants to stay at rest and that applies to your state of being as much as it does to kinetic potential. You’ve spent years, if not decades in your current state and it takes a lot of continuous force to overcome that emotional inertia. Moreover: even if you’re not happy with who you used to be, it was at least comfortable. It was familiar. It was the devil you knew. Now you’re in a whole new world, with new rules and new adventures and it doesn’t feel as natural to you as your previous life did. It takes conscious effort to maintain your new life in a way that your old one did’t You’re going to be beset by doubt and insecurity and the nagging feeling that it could all go away in a heartbeat.
Ironically, it’s that very fear that makes it all too easy to regress.
That’s why you need to learn how to keep those changes going.