Dear Dr. Nerd Love, (m.d?, ph.D?)
(Doctor’s Note: Dr. NerdLove is not a real doctor.)
Thanks for writing such a female-friendly advice column for men. It’s very refreshing. However, I’m a woman and I need some help too! I’m 26 and single. I’ve never really had a relationship that lasts longer than 5-6 months, if it even reaches that point. I don’t really have any “issues”. I’m pretty secure with who I am, successful in life, sociable, and communicate pretty easily. I am nerdy, as in I work as a computer programmer and have a degree in math. I tend to go for nerdy guys, but not exclusively. To be honest, I don’t have a type, just require them to be a decent human being and not fail at life. However, it seems most of my interactions with the opposite sex have either led to me being “friend-zoned” or only desired for sex. Physically, I’m attractive, but on the curvy side, and I’ve never really had issues “getting laid”, but that’s not what I want. I don’t understand what I’m doing wrong that I can’t seem to find a guy who actually wants to have a meaningful relationship with me. Sometimes, I feel like guys think that just because I’m kinky in bed, that I’m not the kind of girl they can bring home to their parents, which is completely untrue. I have impeccable manners, and a wide selection of dinner appropriate conversation topics under my belt. I am also not willing to subscribe to playing by “The Rules” and engaging in shitty gender role games to trick a man into committing to me.