I’m kind of a control freak. Seriously. There’s a reason why NerdLove Industries is pretty much a one man show: I have a hard time not being in control of things. I get twitchy if I’m riding shotgun instead of driving myself1. Hell, I barely tolerate cut-scenes in video games because Nathan Drake’s suddenly not doing the shit I tell him to do.
But… I had to learn how to be willing to give up control in dating. And to be perfectly honest, it was one of the best things I could have done. The need to try to control everything in dating is understandable – ambiguity and uncertainty can be intimidating after all – but more often than not, that need to try to account for everything ends up frustrating you and holding you back. Learning to relax your metaphorical grip on the reins can help loosen you up and give your social life the shake-up it needs. [Read more…]
- with the exception of taking cabs in New York City because… fuck, have YOU ever tried driving in Manhattan? Nope nope nope… [↩]