Here’s something that most relationship coaches aren’t going to tell you: fights are a part of relationships. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can learn how to stop fighting.
Doesn’t seem like that makes sense, does it? Stick with me here for a second and you’ll understand.
Relationships are kind of like Fight Club: if you’re you’re dating someone, you’re going to fight. There’s no getting around it. It’s the inevitable result of being in a relationship with another person – there’s going to be conflict, no matter how (drift) compatible you may be.
Trying to avoid fighting means trying to avoid conflict – which usually means that important issues get swept under the rug in the name of “keeping the peace” instead of, y’know, resolving them. And of course, we all know how well denial works when it comes to conflict resolution.
Rather than trying to avoid conflict, people in the most successful relationships learn how to fight so that they don’t end up doing more damage to one another. But learning how to fight is only part of the answer. You also have to know how to stop fighting so that you can actually fix things and move on to the more important parts of the relationship… like the make-up sex.
So just how can you stop fighting with your partner? Well I’m glad you asked…