Hey Doc, I just want to preface I really enjoy reading you and you’ve helped me out a lot when it comes to try and figure myself out as well as become more confident. There’s just one aspect of my life in which I don’t feel confident at all: my sexual experience and sexual self-esteem….
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So Your Friend Is Making Porn: A Guide to Not Making It Weird
The COVID-19 pandemic and resulting lockdown has had a number of surprising side-effects. One of them has been an explosion of social-distancing influenced horniness. This in and of itself isn’t that unexpected; Thanatos and Eros go hand in hand, after all. Many people respond to stress and the threat of death by wanting to reaffirm…
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How Do I Ask My Girlfriend if She Was Abused?
Doctors’ Note: Today’s column includes a discussion of familial sexual abuse. Hi Doc, I have a situation that I’m not quite sure how to handle. TL;DR: There’s a pretty heavy subject I am contemplating raising with my partner but I’m not sure how to go about it. To explain, I (he/him) have been seeing my…
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Why Do Her Guy Friends Get Weird After Sex?
Hi Doc, Straight cis female in her late 20s here. I don’t date a lot and sometimes crave physical intimacy, so when I do have sex a few times a year it’ll typically be with a friend I’ve noticed seems open to it (to be clear, different friends, not one specific person). Usually we’ll be…
Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Get Others To Respect My Boundaries?
Hey Doc, I’ll admit, this isn’t a question related to romantic relationships, but rather to familial relationships, although I do believe that the advice I’ll receive could be generalized to friendships and other relationships: I’ve finished university, I’ve started a job hunt, I’m moving into a place that I’ve found, and I’m ready to get…
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Ask Dr. NerdLove: Do I Have To Choose Between Sex or Love?
What’s up Doc, Here’s the thing… I’m completely nuts for a girl and she seems to be completely nuts for me. She’s smart, funny, gets excited by the littlest things, is a complete geek, and is seriously beautiful. I think she is about the best woman I’ve ever had a relationship with and I’d totally…
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