It’s not really a stretch to say that 2020 was one of the most challenging years in living memory for… well, pretty much any of us. But it was also an unprecedented and uniquely difficult year for relationships — for single people and for folks who were coupled up or in poly relationships. People who were single often found themselves feeling locked out of dating. After all, the COVID-19 pandemic and lockdown meant that a lot of the usual ways of meeting people were off limits, and most traditional dates were either impossible or severely restricted.
Partnered folks, on the other hand often found that the quarantine — especially for couples who were quarantined together 24/7 — put their relationship through levels of stress they had never experienced before. And of course, if you were non-monogamous, it often meant that you could no longer see partners you weren’t living with.
Almost everyone has come out of 2020 feeling isolated, overwhelmed and disconnected. Lots of people felt themselves backsliding in their progress, and others have been wrestling with feelings of futility and hopelessness.
But it doesn’t need to be that way.
Now I’ll freely admit: I’m pretty firmly in the camp of “New Year’s Resolutions are bullshit”. I think the concept of “new year, new me” encourages people to bite off more than they can chew. People set themselves up for failure with implausible expectations and end up making themselves feel worse when they can’t achieve the impossible… before repeating the cycle the next year. 2020 was already a year-long hangover; adding the pressure of trying to make up for a lost year just adds to the potential misery and frustration.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t turn things around and set yourself up for success in 2021. The key to building an amazing life in 2021 is to make the right changes — the changes that will actually give you the greatest overall benefit. So rather than worrying about how to lose 20 pounds or make a point of doing a thousand approaches, let’s talk about the 5 things you can do that will get you ready for the new year… and every year afterwards.