As long as I can remember, I have always been in love with my geeky/nerdy community, not as just that most of the folks I get to meet are amazing ppl and possess so much knowledge (i have to admit that glasses, passion about literature and all is a huge turn on for me). But at times it happens that ppl get intimidated by me as I am a strong woman of colour who has been involved in social justice activism in my community. So first what do I do about it? I mean how should I tell that person that I like them and all and I would want to know them without them being way scared of me or something.
The second thing is my activism is a huge part of my life, I believe they are the principles which define me and what I stand for. For example, even if I find someone attractive (as they just blow my mind away with their nerdiness – dont know if its even a word), I get turned off if they end up saying anything which is remotely problematic. After that, all that fuzzy feeling and romantic flirting and all goes out the window. I like to argue my point as much as the next person, but it breaks my heart that my nerdy boy community is very white and straight and doesnt understand how and where a woman of colour fits into it.