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DR. NERDLOVE LIVE: Managing Your Emotional Health During COVID-19

March 25, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

How do you manage anxiety in the middle of a pandemic? How is living under quarantine affecting you? In my first LIVE teleseminar, I talk about how to manage stress and maintain your emotional health during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Want to take part? The next seminar is on 3/31 at 3 PM CST. Join me at the Dr. NerdLove Facebook Page and be sure to join the NerdLove Academy group!

DOCTOR’S NOTE: So since I did this over Facebook Live, there’s a little funkiness with the audio. I’ve done my best to clean it up but some of it is baked into the episode itself. Sorry ’bout that, we’re seeing what can be done for next time.

Episode #134 — You Are Your Own Worst Enemy

February 26, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

The reason why so many people struggle with dating isn’t because of their looks, their height, their genes or their hairline. It’s because they are caught in a cycle of bad habits and practices that destroy your confidence and sabotages your ability to improve.

Here’s how you can break out of this negative cycle and build the habits that will improve your willpower, your self-esteem and help you find the dating success you deserve.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

How self-limiting beliefs cause you to fail before you’ve even begun
Why negativity is so powerful and seductive
How the training secrets of US Navy SEALS can improve your social life
Why dreaming about a better life keeps you from achieving your goals
How Brad Pitt and George Clooney developed their famous charisma

…and so much more

Getting Out of Your Own Way

Starting From Zero

Build Your Emotional Resilience

You’re Ok, I Promise

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ASK DR. NERDLOVE: Can You Learn To Love Being Single?

February 5, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

I’m answering your most important dating questions! If you have a question about love, sex or dating, then be sure to leave a comment. Maybe the next question I answer will be yours!

This week: Valentine’s Day is coming, and it’s stressing people out. How can you learn to be happy when you’re single, especially when it seems like the universe is determined to remind you that everyone else is coupled up and you’re not?

Book A Private Coaching Session With Dr. NerdLove

The Secret to Being Successful With Women

How To Get Over Your Fear Of Rejection

How To Survive Valentine’s Day (When You’re Single)

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Episode #132 — The Secret To Being Successful With Women

January 29, 2020 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Here’s something nobody will tell you about being successful with women: nobody is “naturally” good with women. Nobody is born with an instinctual ability to get dates. Everyone — people who seem to be naturally gifted and people who learned later in life — all developed their skills the same way.

That’s why all the people who are successful with women have the same things in common. If you want to learn how to have the love life you deserve, then you want to master the four key components to developing the skill to meet, connect with and date amazing women.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

Why “naturals” don’t really exist
How people learned the right — and wrong — lessons about how to be good with women
Why confidence is a vital part of success with women — but not for the reasons you’d expect
Why most people fail when they try to get better at dating
What makes the difference between someone who succeeds at dating, and someone who will never improve

…and so much more.

RELATED LINKS:

Become Someone Worth Dating – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/become-someone-worth-dating/

Level Up: Face Your Dating Fears – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/facing-your-dating-fears/

Developing An Abundance Mentality – https://www.doctornerdlove.com/leveling-up-abundance-mentality/

Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/your-attitude-controls-your-dating-success/

How to Use Humor in Your Flirting — https://www.doctornerdlove.com/use-humor-flirting/

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Ask Dr. NerdLove: How Do I Stop Feeling Like Such A Loser?

December 9, 2019 by Dr. NerdLove Leave a Comment

Good evening Doc,

Well this seems like my yearly fuck dating thing I do all the time. It seems that I’m not up to cut to date anyone ever. I’ve been working out for few years lost 70lbs and still feel like crap most of the time. Dating at this moment is a constant reminder of past, present and future failures in trying to even find a women that is even 2% interested in me or anything that I have to say. To me it seems that women are immediately repulsed by me; none have ever said that but it’s the feeling I get.

I workout 4-6 days a week, have a good paying job, friends that I don’t hate, two motorcycles, go to EDM concerts and travel quite a bit, hobbies include trying to learn to draw and DJ.

So at this point it either has to be location or me. I’ve tried OKCupid, I never get any responses I always ask something about a picture they have or a joke or something. Tinder I lasted about 36 hours before I deleted that. Tinder added to the fact that my face must be severely fucked. I’ve reading Models, No More Mr. Nice Guy, Mate, Definitive Book on Body Language. Takeaway from those is once again keep working on yourself and it will happen. Keep and eye open but don’t look too hard. Right….

My two roommates must be vagina whispers, they have so many girls every week coming in and out of the house it’s insane. They don’t leave the fucking house they barely clean, I’m pretty sure if these guys lived on their own, their house would be a disaster. I started going to therapy a year ago to hopefully figure out what to do but at this point. Turns out I have ADHD and depression. My mood is better but that’s about it

I was listening to an art of manliness podcast, they had Duana Welch on she was talking about how to be more attractive to women. I gathered from that talk was that men who don’t want to provide or protect are not much use as a man. But men don’t like women that are unattractive.

I believe people should hold there own and only need minimal help from the other person, so I’m screwed. So since I don’t care to provide and protect for women, some other guy will and I’m useless as a man. If this is 50/50, are we not equals? They were talking about making a list of dating requirements, like loyalty and femininity and whatnot.

Just flashing back to the women in my life growing up were all breadwinners, they ran there own businesses all worked in some caliber. From what I’m reading those women are going against the norm and are also screwed to be alone forever as well.

I’m 31 now, and I wasn’t always this lonely or down about being by myself. But around 25 or 26, even though I was doing all the things I was supposed to in order to enjoy life, I just wasn’t meeting women. And as that started building on itself, it just became the biggest failure in my life, and what I started worrying about constantly.

I’ve talked with my therapist about trying to get in a good feedback loop by just doing just little things but those don’t help still feel useless and worthless. Then that spills over into any type of relationship I would have had with anyone.

At this point I’m more frustrated and angry more than anything. Feels as though I should give up. At 30 not that I’ve lived that long or anything, everyone says once you hit 30 you won’t care and then it will happen.

Any advice ?

Sincerely,

Frustrated Nerdy Black Guy

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