It’s a new year, which is the traditional time to start deciding how you’re going to change up your life. As much as I’m a “New Years Resolutions are bullshit” kind of person, I am a fan of self-motivation and sometimes giving an arbitrary date emotional significance is as good a way as any to kick off…
self-improvement
Why You Should Fake It ‘Til You Make It
Last week I told you that authenticity was important. This week, I’m going to tell you why it’s good to lie. And no, this isn’t a contradiction in terms. Stick with me here, this will all make sense in a second. One of the things I regularly advocate, especially when you’re just starting to work…
The Value of Authenticity
Let’s talk a little bit about authenticity and being authentic. It makes a lovely buzzword, doesn’t it? You hear about authenticity as a marker of quality or sincerity, an antidote to artificiality. We talk about valuing authenticity in our lives, but the way we live is almost always anything but. We live in a world…
A Gentleman’s Guide To Not Being An Asshole
If the Internet is known for one thing it’s for putting all of the porn ever created in one place just so we can find it and deal with unexpected challenges to our sexuality. If it’s known for two things, it’s that it is the natural breeding ground of the asshole. In fact, the idea that assholes…
Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success
I want to talk to you about your attitude. There’s one commonality I see over and over again among people who have the hardest time dating: they have shitty attitudes. You’ll see it in the way they talk about others, about themselves, about women and the whole process of dating. Everything is pointless, nothing is…
5 Ways You Sabotage Your Love Life
One of the most important things I can teach people about dating is simple: dating success is 80% attitude and 20% skill and presentation. No matter how good looking you may be or how suave you may think you are, a shitty attitude is going to sabotage your success and snatch defeat from the jaws…