One of the common complaints I hear from readers is that they have absolutely no dating history or experience and don’t know where to begin. And in fairness, while I do have a number of articles in The Basics that cover the dating fundamentals, sometimes it can be hard to know just where to begin. After all, when you’re starting from zero, it can be a little intimidating. You’re looking at trying to do something fairly massive and just the sheer scope of what there is to learn and to adapt and adjust to can make it seem like there’s just too much to overcome. And when you pair that with what are likely life-long held self-limiting beliefs about who you are and what you’re capable of doing… well, it’s a recipe for paralysis at best. You feel like you’re standing at the foot of the Matterhorn and trying to figure out just how the hell you’re going to make it to the summit… only with no gear and no preparation and at least one arm tied behind your back.
So at the urging of several readers1, I want to talk a little about how to go about getting started making your own transformation from the ground up.
- And a hat tip to long-time reader and commenter Gentleman Johnny, who suggested the article [↩]