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Paging Dr. NerdLove Episode #57 – How To Tell Amazing Stories

December 7, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 1 Comment

Being interesting isn’t just about knowing things or having done incredible things. You also want to be able to share those experiences with others. Most of us don’t think about the way we present ourselves to others – not just in how we look or how we act, but about why people should want to get to know us or spend time with us.

This is why you need to know how to tell stories. When you’re in an interview and they ask you about a time that you overcame a challenge, you’re telling a story. When your date asks you about where you grew up or what you do for a living, you’re telling a story. When you’re pitching your services or your idea to others… you’re telling a story.

Telling a story about yourself is part of how you convey who you are. And the best, most interesting people out there are the ones who know how to convey information about themselves in a compelling, entertaining manner that not only gets the point across, but keeps the listener actively engaged.

Show Highlights:

Why how you tell your story is more important than what your story is about
How focusing on the end is the key to telling a good story
The way to structure a great story
The importance of creating vivid characters
Why every good story starts with the climax

…and so much more.

Related Links:

How To Be Funny

How To Talk So People Will Listen

5 Secrets To Make People Like You

The Most Attractive Aspect of A Man (Isn’t Looks Or Money)

The Power of Expressiveness

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What Women Wish Men Knew About Good Sex

May 8, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 191 Comments

Good sex and sexual satisfaction is an important part of maintaining a happy relationship. Unfortunately, it’s also something that many straight couples struggle with. In fact, a study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior found that heterosexual women had the fewest orgasms. The study, conducted by The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University and Chapman University found that while 98% of heterosexual men achieved orgasm during sex, only 65% of heterosexual women did. Meanwhile, 89% of gay men, 86% of gay women and 88% of bi men. Bi women came in second to last at 66%.

Three cheers for checking reproducibility in the name of scientific rigor.

For many women, this was a “no duh” moment. After all, as scientists have confirmed before: one of the primary reasons why women aren’t into casual sex is that, well, straight dudes kind of suck in bed. And the sad truth is: it doesn’t take that much to be a legend in bed… if you just pay a little attention.

Here is a little of what women wish guys knew about sex.

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Find Your Swagger

March 6, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 219 Comments

One of the things that divides the desirable men from the single ones is simple: the desirable men have that swagger. A man who’s connected with his swagger is someone who’s tapped into a level of charisma that other people simply don’t have. Swagger is that mix of confidence and assurance that gives a man the extra oomph, that ineffable quality that makes him almost magically appealing.

Swagger is part of what makes an individual go from attractive to magnetic. We see it in some of the most beloved characters in pop culture from Peter Venkman to Han Solo to Jack Harkness. We see it in celebrities like Will Smith and Serge Gainsbourg.

And you can have it too. So let’s start finding your swagger.

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How To Talk To Attractive Women

February 27, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 334 Comments

One of the hardest things for many men to do is to simply talk to attractive women. It’s hard enough simply making that first approach, but once you get there, what the hell do you say? Worse, you have your opener planned out but for some reason, there’s a disconnect between your brain and your mouth. You know that you have the eloquence of a modern day Baudelaire, but when you open your mouth, all that comes out is gibberish. How are you supposed to talk to this woman when it seems like English has become your second or third language?

On the plus side, maybe she’ll think that “Baw-Di-Baw” is a way of sharing your mutual love of Kid Rock?

Trying to talk to attractive women is – not surprisingly – pretty intimidating. The stakes feel so much higher than just shooting the shit with your friends and you feel like you need to bring your A-game. Worse, your brain short-circuits. The old joke that guys have enough blood to run the penis or the brain but not both may be hacky… but it’s not entirely wrong. Studies suggest that talking to attractive women really does make you stupid – at least temporarily.

So how do you learn to overcome being a blithering idiot and start talking to attractive women like it was no big deal?

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Paging Dr. NerdLove Minisode #17 – Conquering Social Anxiety

February 16, 2017 by Dr. NerdLove 1 Comment

Everyone deals with social anxiety to one degree or another. We’re all worried that we’re going to humiliate ourselves, say the wrong thing and otherwise become a social pariah because we’ve managed to alienate people by saying something so unbelievably awful that we can never be forgiven or show our face in public again.

But social anxiety can overtake our lives, making it a nightmare just trying to interact with other people in our day to day lives. It’s one thing to understand things logically, but when you feel your anxiety building, logic goes out the window.

Which is why this week we’re talking about some things you can do in the moment to conquer your social anxiety and be the outgoing, confident person you want to be.

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