Imagine, if you will, a night out. You’re at a party; the drinks are flowing, the music is thumping, you’re chatting with your buddies and having a good time… and then you look across the room and see her. She stands out like a vision amongst her friends. She’s gorgeous, she’s funny, and she’s looking at you. Every fiber in your body is screaming that you need to go up and talk to her.
And then the little voices start to speak up. “She’s with her friends,” it says, “you don’t want to go talk to her in front of them… you should wait until you can get her alone.”
“She probably has a boyfriend.”
“Look at all those guys around her, how are you supposed to compete with them?”
Before you know it, the moment’s gone; she’s moved on to another part of the party and you’re left feeing like a fool.
Let’s be honest: approaching women can be intimidating as hell. Even for the most socially adapt and experienced, the act of walking up to a complete stranger and trying to convince her to start a relationship with you – whether it be sexual or emotional, long term or just for the night – is absurdly difficult; it’s no wonder that those little voices of negativity will pop up and try to talk you out of it. It can be too much for just one man sometimes.
But what if you weren’t flying solo? What if you had someone with you, someone who had your back? Someone who could help you navigate all the little contingencies, someone who could help you manage all of the logistics in order to make sure you had your chance? Somebody who can give you the boost you need to get in there and start talking?
Well, that’s why you need a wingman.
Your wingman is your best friend when you’re out trying to meet women. His purpose is to handle the obstacles and logistics of a situation whenever you are trying to talk to a woman. Is she surrounded by her friends? Your wingman is there to help win them over to your side. Are there other guys competing for her attention? Your wingman is there to keep them distracted while you make your move. Is her friend getting jealous of all the attention your target is getting? Your wingman is there to keep her from ruining things by pulling your girl away.
A good wingman can get you laid… but a bad wingman can leave the two of you going home alone drunk and wondering what went wrong. This is why you both need to follow these simple rules for wingmen.