Dear Dr. NerdLove,
A few years ago I was in a relationship with a woman. We originally met through Tinder, but we did actually develop feelings for each other. Unfortunately, the timing of the relationship did not work out. We lived far apart from each other and with our busy schedules (she was an undergraduate, I was a medical student at a different university) we only got to see each other 2 or 3 times a month on weekends. After 6 months or so, I broke off the relationship and it was a painful experience. I regret how things ended, I regret the way I acted at times, and I still sometimes wish things could have worked out differently.
Jump to today, I have grown a lot as a person. I’ve learned a lot about myself as a result of mental health counseling and gained experience in romantic relationships. Now, I have learned that this woman will be moving to attend a graduate program at my university. I am debating whether or not I should try to reach out to her. I am concerned that she still harbors negative emotions towards me, but I think it may be worth the risk of reaching out through social media and gauging her interest in reconnecting. What do you think I should do? Would it be disrespectful to show up again after all this time trying to make amends?
Thanks in advance,