One of the oldest questions that everybody in the self-help/relationship advice circuit gets is “I like this person, how do I get her to like me?”
Now granted, there are a myriad number of answers ranging from the obvious – “try using your wit and charm” – to the arcane – “Take her through the emotional progression model; by the time you get to C3, it’ll be time to enter the seduction stage” and the profoundly useless – “Buy her enough shit until you’ve maxed out your social meter with her and she’ll sleep with you.”
We all have those friends who network the way other people breathe, making friends with ease and charming the pants off people – sometimes literally – while leaving the rest of us in jaw-dropped wonder and jealousy. Of course, when you ask them about it, either they can’t explain it – “I just… talk…. I guess?” or their inner workings are so idiosyncratic that the first step to recreating it is “Be that person,” which is about as helpful as saying “Go that way really fast. When you see something in your way… turn.”
Truthfully though, the key to getting people to like you is actually very simple… it’s just that most of us don’t realize it when we’re doing it. Once you understand how to build rapport with somebody, you’ll find that you’ve gotten an instant bonus to your charisma check.