Normally I reserve readers emails for Ask Dr. NerdLove… except this isn’t your typical Ask Dr. NerdLove question. This touches on several topics I’ve covered before, and considering that I’ve had people close to me who have been victims of stalking, I think it’s worth talking about this.
A friend of mine is being stalked by a man some thirty years her senior that she met though a college social organization. He has gone so far as to find where she is studying abroad and show up at her apartment.
She is taking the proper steps with authorities both in this country and the one where she resides, but there is little they can do at this point. She occasionally reaches out to the people in the student organization for information on his whereabouts and online activity as she has blocked him in every way possible and thus does not have access to his pages either.
However, recently some members have attempted to tell her to “just ignore him” and that she’ll be “a lot less stressed” if she just stops paying attention to him. They also asked “doesn’t she have a boyfriend?” and “it sounds like what she needs is a strong man”.
I just- I can’t. How- ARGH.
Can you please help me with my words? How can I articulate how NON-TRIVIAL an issue this is?
Friend In Deed